Regrets

[Crazychick]

Just wondering what peoples biggest regrets are? Why do we have them and how many of us, given the chance, would do those things differently?

[OBonio]

A lost love. Lost through 'a sense of right and wrong'. She split up with me, broke my heart. We carried on seeing each other as friends for a while after. One night, she invited me over to watch a film. Come midnight, she asks me to stay the night to which I say 'no, it woulnd't be right' as we'd split. She even pinched my backside on the way out. I still said no, thinking it was 'the right and honourable thing'. Stupidly thinking she'd respect me more for doing 'the right thing'. If I had my time over, I'd have stayed the night. Even if it was the last night we spent together, at least it would have been a better memory.

[kazzee69]

Good question. One of mine is not sticking up for one of my friends years ago when some other girl was picking on her. She was such a lovely person and I did nothing. I was only 13 but its no excuse..

[londondave]

No point in regret., but if I could turn the clock back to 1991 I would have slept with a famous and beautiful female singer when she was flirting with me, but I had a girlfriend at the time (18 mnths) so I was a good boy, DON'T ASK ME WHO! cos I won't say. (I did get a little goodbye snog)

[Little Lady]

Going to college and studying Beauty Therapy instead of interior design though i am off to do this in september now. I can't actually do my beauty because i react to all products now that come in contact with my hands hrumph!

[happy_face]

Not spending more time with my dad before he died of cancer.
Sorry to put you on a downer

[milly143]

I regret doing haridressing at college straigh after I left school. I also regret completing only 22 months of the 2 year course. Im not in a position where I can go and study something else now. Saying that, there is no point in regretting things, you can't go back and change them.

[*mystical*]

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[kazzee69]

How about you Crazychick? They do say you shouldn'y regret things you've done, only things yu haven't!

[Guinevere]

Similar to others: not telling someone how I felt.
I had nothing to lose!  Would have been embarrassed if he'd rejected me, but I would have got over it.
I was only 16-17 and I think in hindsight he may have liked me a bit. 
Even though I am with the man of my dreams now, I still think of the other guy and what could have been (sigh!)

There are plenty of other things I have done that maybe weren't so wise but I have learnt from all of them.  For example: it was completely pointless me going to university as I had a horrid time, had a bit of a breakdown and it certainly didn't help me find a job!  However, if I hadn't have gone, I wouldn't have got the job that I did, and therefore would not have met my lovely boyfriend!

Part of me thinks everything happens for a reason!

[dmsjps]

I regret not giving my mum more hugs, more phone calls, telling her how important she was to me, etc, before she was suddenly snatched away without warning. I miss her terribly 9 years on and there's still  a massive void in my life.

 

Guinevere, my mum always told me that too: everything happens for a reason.

[kazzee69]

I also believe everything happens for a reason a few years ago I was bunking college (for like the 3rd time that week) and the college called my house and told my mum. She called me on my mobile and said if I wasn't going to bother with college I should get job and not to come home until I did (Empty threat) but I was standing outside a shop and walked straight in and asked for an application form. The manager became my boyfriend and 5 years later we are still together. Plus at the time he had broken up with his long term girlfriend and me and him became best friends and I dragged him out of his depression. A few months later we realised we were in love and have been together ever since. So if my college hadn't called my mum, my mum hadn't called me, I hadn't wandered into the nearest shop and he hadn't already had his heart broken my life would be so different now. I have never been one to hide my feelings for someone as I believe that if you don't put yourself out there you may never know. Be foolish in love. I always ask myself first 'Whats the worst that can happen?'

[Robinia]

I regret not going on a shop-lifting spree when I was (prematurely) going through the menopause!! hehe

Seriously, I could say that I regret many things but as I look back over my 51 years I see it all actually makes sense - even the really awful parts. In general terms I'd say I regret not saying how I felt, good or bad, at various times in my life.

[amarillis]

I regret wasting a year pursuing a relationship with a married man, and I regret all the arguments I had with my dad.

But those things have made me realise how much I love my dad, and has made me work at having a better relationship with him. And it has made me realise that it is far better to wait for a good relationship with a worthwhile partner, so maybe the regretful things happen for a reason.

[Crazychick]

Kazzee69 I dont have any regrets...so far. Not long been out of a long term relationship and although Ive never once regretted the choice I made, it still hurts! Its a matter of having to get over him rather than wanting to! His regrets have ended up, in my eyes, ruining everything we once had and anything we stood of getting back. I have no choice but to let it be part of my past now.

In the future Im sure Ill look back and realise that it has made me who I stand to be.

And Guinevere, there is no greater believer in fate than myself! It sometimes worries me the lack of control I have over my own life!

[Scarlett]

I regret NOT playing for John Leslie's Blue Peter leaving party. My stupid sister decided it was too much hassle to go all that way for �100. It wasn't about money to me, it was about FUN and making CONTACTS. Maybe if I have done the gig I would be a singer and not a teacher!

[thikasabrik]

The one thing I regret happened in the 1980's. Instead of saying "I DO" I should have said "NO WAY!"

[El D]

Don't have any regrets - all my decisions have resulted in me.

[CarolG]

I regret ever getting a credit card.

[butter1]

The only thing I regret is not telling my mum I loved her before she died.  I miss her deeply and never told her how I felt.  I was also in my horrible teens then and not a nice person.  I'm sure she knew what I felt for her but it would have been nice to have told her and given her a massive hug.