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A lot of people say that you shouldn't regret things, and so far I haven't because I always think I wouldn't have wanted things to go differently. But if you never regret does that mean you can never learn from your mistakes? Is it bad not to regret some things? So as an example, what if you slept with someone in a relationship, and you didn't regret it but knew you shouldn't do it again because you could get hurt (or hurt other people). If you don't regret doing it does that mean that when given the opportunity you WILL do it again?? sorry for writing so much but it's hard to explain! What do you think?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.i don't believe you need to regret something to learn from it. in your example, perhaps you wouldn't regret the act of sleeping with someone else, but fearing the consequences means that you see it as a bad thing, and probably wouldn't do it again. i think if you were caught, it would turn into regret, because you would have lost something.
nto sure if i'm making sense!?!?!
The reason you shouldn't regret things is because it's a futile emotion, you cannot physically go back and change it, so beating yourself up about it does no good at all, as with guilt.
I agree with natty in that I don't think you have to regret something in order to learn from it, to use a cliche "a wise man learns from other peoples mistakes"
But, if you're asking if, because someone doesn't feel guilty about something they've done, are they more likely to do it again, then i'd probably say yes. People generally will do what they want to do in any given situation.
When weighing up what we want, the chance of regret will be a factor along with who could be hurt and what we would get out of it. But regret or guilt won't be the deciding factor in that. I know people who have done that, felt very very guilty and carried on doing it anyway.
Hinge1967, I take your point, and maybe i used the wrong word. I was just trying to say that i don't feel that anything necessarily constructive can come out of regret or guilt. I'm not sure that it does stop people making the same mistake again, maybe it does for some, but personally i find it quite posionous.
Having said that, I'm now going to contradict myself, as the only things i regret are things i haven't done. Which does now push me to do things i want to do (so i won't regret not doing it afterwards) but if i sit and mope over the regret of not having done something then that would be futile. So maybe it's more how regret is handled than the regret itself. Sorry rainbowbrite, getting off topic.