Any tips on getting an active social life ?

[ClinkatyClank]

Any tips on getting an active social life ? Split with the partner :( no real social life.

Any ideas ?

[owdhamer]

Darby and joan club?

[divegirl]

Hey , I hope you're okay. I just asked a similar question so you may want to take a look here

http://www.theanswerb.../Question1187474.html

Lisa x

[boxtops]

Like I suggested to lisa - have a look at your local amateur drama group, new members are always welcome. Takes your mind of things, too, especially if it's a panto !

[VHG]

If we knew your age it would help.

Go to a club or society that DO things rather than go to noisy discos or pubs.

For example if you like walking then join a local ramblers group. The ramblers society do have groups for all ages.

I found rambling a great way to meet people or get to know people as when you are walking along you tend to chat to whoever is beside you.

Also go to your local library and they often have a "wall" where all the local clubs and societies are listed.

There wil be groups for dancing, history, archeology, singing, chess, photography etc etc etc.

Or go to an evening class at your local college and pick up a new skill. Find one the opposite sex may go to and you may be "lucky". If you are a you are a man go to cake making for example (bit sexist I agree but just an idea).

Volunteer. Most areas have a need for volunteers for all sorts of things. Have a look on your council web site to find out what volunteers are needed.

Thats a few ideas.

[pdust]

have you thought of joining groups? i gave up my social life when i was seriously thinking about reverting as it mainy revolved around drinking and partying... i still needed a social life so i joined groups, made new friends and now theres always something happening, days out, meals, events and stuff.

[VHG]

Join a local amateur theatre. My wife and her sister do this and the people have a great time putting on a play. They usually do 2 plays a year and take 6 months rehearsing etc for each.

If you dont want to be on stage there are plenty of jobs backstage like making costumes, building the set, prompt, lighting, sound and so on.

I go along to the occasional social evening and have to say the friendship amongst the people is amazing.

p.s. Most theatre groups are always short of men, there are always plenty of women, so you will be welcomed with open arms.

Just noticed someone has put a similar answer, but will still post this anyway.

[Maydup]

Pop your postcode into this link for volunteering opportunities in your area.

http://www.do-it.org.uk/

Otherwise how about taking up a sport or braving it and going to some sporting events on your own and striking up conversation with like minded people?

[ClinkatyClank]

Can a person volunteer while in a full time job ?

[bednobs]

of course - you could do volunteering at the weekends (if you had the energy or inclination)

[pdust]

you can volunteer if you work full time, i do volunteer work and theres a couple of people who work full time come in for few hours

[VHG]

>>>Can a person volunteer while in a full time job ?

Much volunteering is for charities, maybe helping them just for a few hours a week upwards.

[ClinkatyClank]

Might sound strange, but can going to local coffee shops such as cafe Nero help find friends ? Sort of striking up a conversation with someone as u sit with them if the shop is busy on a busy weekend..

[VHG]

>>>>Sort of striking up a conversation with someone as u sit with

Sorry but that sounds a bit sad and desperate to me.

Joining a group or society in which you are interested, say photography, at least means you meet people with a similar hobby.

Talking to people in a cafe is rather random and may come across as a bit intrusive if you ask me.

[ClinkatyClank]

I see VHG

[Psybbo]

Can you sing? A lot of choirs have sprung up and are always looking for members

[ClinkatyClank]

I am horrible singer :) I discovered meetup.com ? anyone use this ?

[grasscarp]

I would be wary of internet sites. My friend got some dates, but nothing progressed beyond that and she was upset to find their profiles still on there while they were seeing her. I think talking to strangers in cafe nero is unlikely to improve your social life. There are a lot of good suggestions here, and to join a group that is something you are interested in is a good idea. I went to a writers group a long time ago and some of the people I met there are still my friends.

[Old-Pedro]

sign up for cerock or modern jive, no partner required