Mini Rant

[sherrardk]

Just had to phone the parents of boy#1's friend to arrange for friend to come round tomorrow (don't know the friend as he is not from the village but they go to secondary school together). Rang and spoke to the dad and he said I will put you on to my wife, as he was doing so I heard him say 'it's the weirdo's mum on the phone'!!!! They have never met my son (not that he is a weirdo - he's a bit quiet, clever, never in trouble, etc). I am cross on my son's behalf and also cross that whilst they think my son is a weirdo they a happy for their son to spend time in our house!

[EcclesCake]

I'm not a parent but I would be bloomin' peeved if I'd overheard that!

[gness]

Sherr...I really would have had to ask even if it meant calling back when I had my wits about me......but that's me. May not be good for your son and best forgotten. x

[starone]

Yes, I agree with Gness, you will have to grin and bear it for your son's sake. See how he gets on with the other boy and take it from there. Bet you will never be friends with his parents though!

[sherrardk]

I was so gobsmacked! I want my son to have his friends round, etc especially as he doesn't have loads of them (he is a 'nice boy' - not being biased but I have seen hundreds of teenage boys). God knows what this friend is like, still bloody rude though. x

[sunny-dave]

Trickyyyy ... I'm from the 'picking scabs' and 'poking with a stick' school of social interaction - but I suspect that cocking a deaf ear may be the best course here (albeit bloody annoying).

[cazzz1975]

I dont blame you for being cross! that being said they may not know you or your son and are just being ignorant.

[giveup]

Us weirdo's have to stick together. That child probably envies your son and really wants to spend time at your house.

[joeluke]

If they've never met your son they are obviously going on their own sons description of him

[rockyracoon]

How bloody awful Sherr, I don't know what to say, but I'm sitting here having a fit for you.

[sherrardk]

Presumably if the other boy thinks my son is a weirdo he wouldn't want to come here. The mother took my phone number so if she rings to cancel I will bring it up. For all I know the dad could be a complete prat. From what I can make out the friend is similar to my son (nice) - they live in the sticks so he probably doesn't get to see many friends during the holidays. I will let the boy come round tomorrow and see how it goes (no reason for both boys to lose out because the dad said something stupid).

[Maydup]

I think you're right and the Dad's a complete prat. It's too childish of him to be anything else.

[joeluke]

I'd send them a xmas card this year signed 'Mr and Mrs Wierdo and family'

We all have private unkind ways to describe people so I wouldn't get too worked up about it

[SlackAlice]

First thing I would have said on the 'phone is "This is the weirdo's mother talking" and see what they say.

But then, I'm a stroppy old git known for extremely honest talking!

[joko]

are you sure this friend actually wants to come?

has your son just decided to invite him and at this point thye are not actually friends?

it could be that their son uses your son to blame things on - sounds like their own son maybe a weirdo and just pins it on others...

[DaisyNonna]

I would say that my son is not a weirdo and ask why they would wish their son to be friends with mine.

[sherrardk]

It's a tricky one - the cross part of me wants to ring up and 'have it out', the part that doesn't want to embarrass my son will let it slide. :(

[magsmay]

sherrardk -your son is obviously friendly enough with this boy to invite him to your home -no one invites random people -and this boy gave your son his phone number so must want to come. It is not the boys fault his parents think your son is a weirdo -its their problem. Think of your own friends - would it bother you if your best friends parents thought you were a weirdo? -probably not. Obviously don't tell your son -it may upset him. Just monitor the situation. My son is also like yours -quiet polite well behaved and as I'm Pagan and often used to go to the school gates in full Goth gear was really classed as weird - weird is good!! (much better than chav lol!)

[joko]

they are likely chavs - the sort who think reading books is weird and who think any lad that likes anything other than football is a weirdo.

[grasscarp]

How are you certain this is what he said? I would not bring it up with them or your son. If something later comes out or confirms it that would be different.

[annie0000]

Are you sure you heard correctly Sher - wracking my brain trying to think what else it could have been.......unless he said the weirdo Mum thus calling you a weirdo and not boy 1?

I hope the visit went well. Hopefully the new friend is a lot nicer than his Dad appears to be!

My No1 son has, over Christmas, gone a to a new friends birthday party and been for a sleepover at another new friends house. It's great when they find new friends. :)