flirting how far can it go?

[trouble16]

 Hi to everyone reading this!

o.k, does anyone think that a lot of eye contact generally means that a guy fancies you? just this happend to me the other night, i really like him but im just a bit unsure of what all this flirty language actually means?!!!!

anyone got any key points that i shuld look out for next time?

im young ive got a lot to learn i know! lol!

thanx xx

[trouble16]

o.k that sounds promising! thank you! but do you think that the chances of him asking me for a number or to go out on a date would be limited as i only see him when he's working!???? any advise on what to say???!!!

or do you think i shuld give up entirly! cos i dont know enough about him!???

thank you again!

[gingerflaps]

no i think u should deffinatly ask for his number, men like a woman who's not afraid to ask, they generally feel more eased coz its just as hard for them to ask for urs as it is 4 u 2 ask 4 his, so go 4 it, give it a try. the worst he can say is no.

[trouble16]

oh god im really scard!in my last realtionship i didnt have to do any of the work! so its a bit daunting! have you every asked for a blokes number when he's working?how did you ask?i babble to much neway!lol!

[gingerflaps]

i'd leave it 4 a couple of weeks, talk to his mates and if he doesnt come onto u then catch him when he's alone else he'l probably be embarresd, ans just say, ''listen, i was wonderin if u wanted 2 go out 4 a drink sometime?''  or if u dont wanna do tha tthen  it would probably be a good idea to get a load of mates of ur n his (after all u do work together) and go out altogether, it'l be easier for u both to get to know each other 'outside of work' and then there will be none of those 'silent situations' coz u got loadsa ppl 2 chat to, its only hard if u make it hard. remember BE CONFIDENT!!!  now u go n get ur man, girl. n let me know wot happens!! 

[gingerflaps]

sorry chick i thought i read u worked together...but u could still say get a loada ur mates n i'l get a loada mine and we'll all go out together, thats fun coz if ur lucky ur mates will get wiv his mates n u will get wiv him. either way u chose 2 ask him out will b fine. n he will respect u 4 askin him

[trouble16]

hey babes! yeh, sorry if my question was a bit vague! well i tell u wat, i was in colege not so long ago and i saw him with his mates,neway that scared me alot, bt i aint seen him since in college!damn! (he read my bank card, so he knows my full name!) but i need your help on this one, im going in on sat with one of me "guy" mates, but im worried he might get the wrong idea and think im not single! can you help me?!you seem to know and understand on other occasions, but i wll let you know!so ur just saying that i should go on up,get talking,and ask 4 his mob numba, while he's working?we both work in town and he knows where i work cos i served him!if thats any help in my dilema!

youv'e been so much help to me! thank you!

[gingerflaps]

if he sees u wiv this guy then deffinatly go up to him n start chattin say somthing like ''hey, fancy seein u in here, i aint seen u 4 ages'' and if he doesnt know this guy freind of urs then introduce them, but make sure this potention lover knows ur freind is only a frend say ''hey this is my freind ******'' then if the 2 guys get chattin u could tell ur freind 2 tell this guy that u really like him, obviosly tell him to tell this guy before they meet!'' then quickly say ''im nippin to the loo'' then thats ur freinds cue to start tell the guy ''look man, this girl really likes u but she's kinda shy on askin u out'' then the guy will either be intersted or not, which u can get the gossip from ur mate if u get  moment alone......ooooo its all very exiting, i wish i could go back to the 'does he like me?' stage. ive been with my man for 5 yrs now. by the way, if ur mate alrady knows this lad then its just made ur life a whole lot easier!

[trouble16]

well funny you should talk about that darl cos one of my mates ive known 4 years works with him, so do u think i should jst say to her "hey blah blah, whats that guy called" etc, (i know what hes called bt its jst to get the conversation rolling!) and if he sees me talking to her then he might go up to her and get her to tell him about me!(tad confusin!llol!)do u think thats a good thing! sorry i didnt mention this its only just come to me. that does actually sound like a gud plan or urs! i might give it a go, i just hope *** can talk to me(like fully blown conversation) while he's working!and its nealy the end of colege so i'll have plenty of time to get things going! i have to tell u something tho, it might swing the situation, i was talking to this otha guy that works ther and *** was standing near me, neway i was talking about when i'll b in with my mates at what time, (totaly oblivious as to what i was saying!) neway went in as i sed and guess who turned up as well ***!!!!!!!!!! i cud have died it was his day off and he came in!!! is that such a major thing???? i thouhgt it was, bt my mates draged me away before i gt a chance to actually speak to him! damn it!!!!i cant stop thinking about him and im just gonna have to bite the bullet!and do it on sat!it is exciting and scary cos ive been single for ova a year and im generally scard!

[trouble16]

just to let u know gingerflaps..... me and **** have met up and its so far going fantastic,so fingers crossed i may be a very happy gal soon! thankyou so much for your help! what made me find the courage to go up to him was i watched a "meet joe black" and relaised that you have to just seize the moment and just do it becasue life is to short,and make the most of the moment in time becasue it will never happen again. And someone said to me the other day that if you dont do it you'll never know and you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "what if..."

and what you said!.. "whats the worst he could say"!

thankyou so much! 

[gingerflaps]

hi troube....im so glad u plucked up the courage to do it, its not an easy thing i know. i just want to say that ur very brave and im so proud!!!!  i bet now u feel like u can accomplish anything ur heart desires.  i just want to wish u both the very best and good luck to u. this could be the beggining of something very special....good luck and take care....  xxkatiexx  p.s dont be shy to keep me informed on any changes, i come on this site all the time so i will look out 4 u...  xxx 

[trouble16]

hey!

awww thank you! im a very happy person at the moment! but i still cant quite bielive ive met someone! ive just spent my life hiding! not really bothering about men and then "bang" there he is! damn right i feel gr8 and have had a real confidence boost! i mean he made the first proper move (if u get what i mean!)i just had to get the ball rolling!im gonna take it slow but we'll c how it goes! i feel like ive made a really cool friend through this question!u gave me beta advise then even my best mates!hehehe! 

and i cant concentrate, keep thinking about what happened! not such a good thing when ive got mountines  of course work to do by thurs!

thankyou

"soph"xxx :-)

[trouble16]

hey gingerflaps.... it me!!! im not sure if u remeber the conversation we got going over our men, but hey u neva no! just writing to say hi and that i hope ur o.k. well, things havnt been going gr8 for me. Me and ***** neva did get together properly, we saw each otha in a bar 1 nite, altho he did give a cuddle and came ova with me and sat down together alone. it turns out that he has a girl friend, but hey, were still mates. what got me was when he went bk to c his mates he sed something that wasnt very nice about his g/f. neway he spends more time with me, (including the bar scene,not tooo long ago)he comes into my work and stuff, making me and my mates think he prefers me!!(well, thats only happend to me once! very succesful it was to!!) got ne ideas?????? i think im on unstable ground tho!! and im probally over reacting too much neway!

neway, hope u and life is going gr8. would be nice to hear bk from u. xxx