Ultimate Betrayal!

[Furner]

I have recently found out that my ex partner of 5 years has been seeing someone else at work. He came home one night and told me that he didnt want to be with me anymore but he said he only became involved with her after he had finished with me. I dont know how true this is because he has not been very honest about anything! When i found out about this and confronted him he doesnt feel that he has done anything wrong and feels that it was just a comfort thing for him, but all the time he was keeping me going and not telling me that he was sleeping with someone else and was allowing me to think that he was suffering from a mental breakdown. I feel so betrayed and hurt and just dont understand how he could jump into bed with someone else so quickly, even now he still wont admit that he is having a relationship with her. I have now moved out of our house and am trying to move on from this but deep down I really want answers that I may never get!

[woofgang]

you are right, I think that you probably won't get those answers and well done for not putting up with any more from him....better to find out now even though it may seem now that its quite late to find out that your parner is a two timing lying  (insert description here). Actually if you think about it you have had your answer from his actions. Any words that he might say are likely not to be the truth anyway. Have you got some friends or family to spend time with? Honestly you will move on from this. if you want to post a rant to help your feelings, go on over to chatterbank.

[kazzee69]

I'm very sorry to hear this has happened. In my experience men don't leav unless they have something to leave for. This is why so many men stay in loveless marriages just because they get looked after. Its the unknown. But if they have something to leave for ie. another woman then they usually leave. All this said and one though I think you are best off out of this relationship and should forget about him. If it was meant to be it would have been.

[Englishbird]

"trying to move on from this" - STOP RIGH NOW! and give yourself a huge break!

This is an awful time for you and it hurts like mad.  I know we all want to be ok immediately, but it doesn't happen like that.  you are allowed to feel like sh*t honey, and my heart goes out to you.

Andy (as always) has made a very important point. And no, we don't get it - women will never understand why or how men can do that!

But we are different, and it takes different things to be able to get over it.  You may not get the answers - more to the point, you may not get answers you want or like.   Do whatever it takes to make yourself feel better.  Boll*cks to him - There is light at the end of the tunnel, and when the hurt starts subsiding (which it will, i promise) i suspect you will feel an awful lot better than you did while you were with him.  Take care x

[ann_h]

He didn't jump into bed quickly. In his head they had been together for months.

Only became involved means only slept with her after he'd told you.

 

Exact same thing with my ex-husband who actually had her hiding upstairs while we were in his kitchen discussing access arrangements!

 Try to accept that the man is a coward and a self-serving sh7t,  which is the best answer you'll get.

The hardest thing now is regaining your faith in yourself- my best wishes, Furner.

ann  

[jean88]

What ever the the answer is, the damage is done. Thats men for you, doesnt matter what he says, he is a liar anyway. Be strong, time would heal.

Take care!