We went and looked at bengal kittens last year, we wanted a female, when we got there she was the cat from hell, growling, snarling, you could not play with her as she would hang on to you and seemed really nasty, we bought her brother in the end as she seemed really messed up, 2 weeks later when I went back to see the kitten I bought, the owner said no one was intrested in her because of her aggresion through play, we paid the deposit for her as well, and they both came home 2 weeks later, she is one of the nicest cats I have ever had, I own 8 +1 from next doors, give her time, and scruff like a mum cat when she is naughty, you will get there, but keep interacting with her often so she knows right from wrong, good luck, x x