Broody For Grandchildren

[pastafreak]

OK...I'm probably being totally selfish here...I accept that....
I'm in my mid sixties,and fear I will not see grandkids at a time when I can enjoy them. Lil pasta is VERY career minded...at 28 she has no intention of having children any time soon,as she is on the verge of finishing her degree this year,and hopefully travelling in whatever job she does. She is in a long term relationship...but ever cautious...he may not be " the one".
Today I passed a young woman on her mobile to her nan....and suddenly wanted that closeness that I heard in her voice. It pains me that it may be years before I am a gran. I never thought I'd feel this way, as I've never been baby/child orientated....it's not helped by being surrounded by 50-something grannies at work. Has anyone else felt this...is it 'normal'?

[Sqad]

No, sorry, I can't empathise with you.....grandchildren do nothing for me...........but will ask Mrs sqad.

[craft1948]

My daughter is nearly 44 so I doubt I'll ever be a grandma. This used to bother me until I realised that at least I wouldn't have to look after them.

[pixie373]

I would imagine it's normal, especially when you see others with those relationships of a similar age. She has time yet- and so do you. Is she your only child?

[carrust]

My 33yr old daughter had a hysterectomy 2yrs ago, so grand kids are a no, no for me:-(

[Sqad]

Mrs sqad said "What?"

[Psybbo]

No, no desire to at all, dogs, cats and fish are enough for me

[pastafreak]

@pixie...yes...only child
@sqad....now...why am I not surprised? Though I sometimes suspect that if there was a little one ...girl...you'd spoil her rotten ;-)

[Sqad]

pasta........LOL.......;-)

[pixie373]

Lol. Do you have grandchildren, sqad?

I'm in the opposite position, pasta and just hoping my wild daughter will leave it a few years.

[tamborine]

have mine but you gotta prepare for chewing gum under the sofa, coke on the carpet and not disturb their gadgets. The only exercise they get is their thumbs on tablets. They grab my iphone to play games & deplete my account.

Please, please take them & their coughs, colds & germs. You will be stunk out of the house with their poops & greed for KFC & pizzas. Gwan, have mine.....FREE ;)

[bednobs]

i think it's perfectly normal. However, don't put any pressure on her (as my mum used to) you never know what's going on in her life (Infertility, abortions and so on)

[pixie373]

Ah, crossposted. I agree, sqad would spoil her rotten and scare off all the oiks.

[Sqad]

pixie.....6 grandchildren and 2 greatgrandchildren.

But there are RULES to be obeyed.

I NEVER...NEVER have them staying in our villa....NEVER.

[pastafreak]

Lol pixie. I think she is also influenced by friends who got pregnant either very young...or with no support system. She's determined that if she does,she will be financially secure...which I know is admirable.

[pastafreak]

You DO have grandkids squad.....? Well I never....

;-)

[pastafreak]

sqad....damn auto correct...

[pastafreak]

Hahaa....nice offer tambo.....but,errr...think I'll wait.

[pixie373]

Good for her, pasta. I think she'll be a great mum when she decides to.

Are you the terrifying grandad, sqad? Moody old git, with a pipe, kind of thing?;-)

[gness]

Hard for me to answer, Pasta as my son has two children. Don't see them as much as I used to before their Mum lost her marbles but I'm fine with that.
I do feel abnormal sometimes because I have no angst about it but I think it's because of the life I have.

When I say I would like the daughter to settle down it's assumed I want more grandchildren....no I don't.....I'm easy either way.

I think it is "normal" for people....especially women... to want a grandchild. I see it in my friends....and the joy when one comes along. They love being a gran.

[Ratty2E]

My son has no intention of ever having kids, it used to.bother me but since becoming a great aunt (3x over so far) I am starting to realise I like my non kid friendly house how it is and as Tambo says they are constantly snotty or coughing their germs everywhere. I think the idea of grandchildren is a romantic notion that bears no relation to the stinky germs messy truth.