Charity Tins

[sandrajo]

I honestly don't mean to sound stingy but I live very near 2 major supermarkets which between them I reckon shop in about 5 times a week. The thing is there's always someone standing at the exit with a tin for one charity or another. I usually put my change for my shopping bill in the tin but on the odd occasion I have no money on me so pay by card. Anyway on leaving tesco today this woman asked me if I would like to give a donation for brain injured children and I replied "sorry I've no money on me" my god if looks could kill!! I felt like saying to her I've given my money twice before this week to her and her other colleague and if they'd given out a badge I would of worn it to show I had donated. It just infuriated me as she thought I was being a Scrooge!! :(

[stewey]

It's almost a form of "entrapment isn't it. I hate it too when adults bring their kids into a bar in order peddle candy bars or cookies (which are always over priced) and the parents are saying with their mannerisms "How can you possible not buy something from my darling child?"

[tonyav]

Blimey stewey, I haven't seen that happen in England ( yet ).

[DaisyNonna]

Luckily we don't have that problem....yet.

[LyndaB]

I work in one of our major supermarkets and they have 'bag packers' in on a regular basis, and I hate them more than anything. I always pay by card and rarely have any change, and it don't want anyone packing my bags in any event, especially not sweet little children who look at me with imploring eyes!

[ummmm]

Drives me mad. My local coop has big issue sellers in the foye. The last thing I need when shopping is being sent on a guilt trip!!!!

[berniecuddles]

sod em charity begins at home i give em nothing else it would be never ending

[DaisyNonna]

Our Big Issue sellers seem to have disappeared.

[sherrardk]

It's surprising what you can ignore when you try, I just pretend I can't see them or aren't aware of them. Life's too short to get irritated or wound up by such small things (I used to though).

[Purple_Popple]

I loath collections at work for someone getting married, leaving, birthday, having a baby etc etc etc....I don't even know the person they are collecting for....but there are people who just give to make themselves look good.

[sandrajo]

Glad it's not just me. Felt awful by the look she gave me.

[sherrardk]

Sandrajo, don't feel bad. Just because the 'charity' is close to someone else's heart doesn't mean you should be guilt tripped into giving money. I particularly dislike bag packers - I can pack my own bags and I don't need someone else squishing all my stuff so that I have to give them money to go on some jolly.

[Mamyalynne]

They are not supposed to ask or rattle the tin, only if you enter into conversation with them should they really speak to you - I smile and pass if for whatever reason I am not giving that day.

[stewey]

A kid once asked me in the bar, "Mister, would you like to donate to missing children?" I responded, "If they're missing, how will they get the money?" His mother, I assumed, generated quite a glare.

[BlueToffee]

When I collected for a charity, it was RNIB, I was told that under no circumstances was I allowed to either rattle the tin or ask for a donation.

[treetops68]

As with most people you probably have your own,personal,preferences as to who you give to, I know I do. So why should you feel at all guilty walking past these scroungers? Don't look at them, just walk straight past with a clear conscience (it probably helps that I'm over 6 ft. and fairly hefty with it!)

[ELVIS68]

I always pay by card in supermarkets so have no change and just walk past them without making eye contact

[Ann]

I just ignore tin rattlers totally. I am firm and "No thank you, I like to pack things in my own way" to the scrounging bag packers, they are usually children only collecting to go on a "jolly" as Sherr has already said. I don't go to the door to give money at carol singing time, or to trick or treaters. Just be assertive and give to who you choose ... why feel guilty?