Condolences

[georgit79]

I've just found out that one of my good friends from school, who I still see every now and again, has just lost her mum. Now, under normal circumstances I would send a card of condolence and perhaps some flowers, and then ring my friend in a week or so to see how she's doing. However, her mum committed suicide after a long battle with depression. What should I do? The same as I was planning to?

[jno]

yes, the daughter's loss is just as great.

[FP]

Totally agree with jno. 

[maxd]

Definitely.  Your friend may need even more support ithan she would have under any other circumstances.   

[purpose]

Absolutely agree with jno and FP.

[georgit79]

Thanks guys- it's a tough one, because of the nature of her mother's death, and this time I have to be a shoulder to lean on. Not even going to go there with my opinion, as you don't want to know! 

[georgit79]

I just feel so utterly devastated for her. It's got to be the worst news you can ever get..

[butter1]

Yes, I still think that you should show her that you are there for her and are thinking of her.  The more friends around the best for her.  I lost my mum to cancer a while ago and I remember how lovely it felt that people sent cards to me to share their condolences.  I remember receiving a card from a girl I went to school with and hadn't seen for about 4 years...that really touched me.

[smudge]

How very sad for your friend georgit. I would do exactly what you intended to do & maybe write inside the card that you will be there for her, if ever she needs you.

[cat woman]

Hi georgit, I really sorry to hear about your friends mum's death, I cant even imagine how this poor girl is feeling right now.  Yes, I agree with every one else on this thread, I will pray for this girl and her mother to night, God Bless them.   :-(

[Buddy]

Poor souls - I agree with every posting.

How awful for everyone.

[bun buns]

yes you so must still do the same thing. It is awful when people dont do anything cos they dont know what to do or say, it is very hurtful to the berieved. Your friend needs you more than ever. You dont have to say the right thing necessarily, just show your friend that you are there for them. That will be great comfort, more than you can imagine.