Telling Your Wife/girlfriend They Are Fat

[dave50]

Have any of you chaps out there ever plucked up the courage to tell your wife/girlfriend that they have put on a bit of weight lately or need to loose a few pounds or even tell them they are fat? If so what was the reaction and did you live to tell the tale? If you are wondering, no I am not about say any such thing to my wife but I know someone who did drop a hint that his wife was getting podgy, didn't go down too well.

[berniecuddles]

sqad pmsl

[Canary42]

Woofgang says it all. 10/10.

[Butterbun]

Touchy subject, very touchy. Mr.B once mentioned my 'arms looked plump' when I least needed it. Result? He made his own meals for a week, burned and totally destroyed 3 lovely pans, got the silent treatment. I got a set of very expensive pans, 2 bottles of perfume, flowers and a shopping voucher.
I don't think he'll mention it again.

[piggynose]

theres no excuse for being morbidly obese!! its pure greed, and can lead to heart atacks, or angina.

[albaqwerty]

really, piggynose? There's no medical conditions that can cause a person to become larger?

Well, you live and learn.

[2sp_]

Piggy, we're not talking about morbidly obese people or their health issues. We are discussing if it's OK to tell your spouse that they have put on a few pounds.

[berniecuddles]

wish i could be like piggynose perfect!

[Sqad]

I am always suspicious of "touch feely" husbands or partners......you never know what they are really doing and thinking.

[Butterbun]

piggynose, there are lots of things that causes heart attacks, many slim people have had them. They either survive or not.

[Henrietta]

I'm in the beer garden and laughed at this post.

I think honesty is the best policy and if you have that kind of closeness and honesty between each other then go for it.

But it also works the other way and any woman that is told about her "Plumpness" I hope she then is as honest with her man about the size of his winkie and how rubbish he is in bed compared to her past lovers who were all stallions in the bedroom.

It's a 2 way street.

Now back to the pub :)

[Sqad]

theres no excuse for being morbidly obese!! its pure greed, and can lead to heart atacks, or angina.

and diabetes, hypertension and strokes.

piggy is quite correct.

[Mamyalynne]

Sqad, if they're touching and feeling their wives you know where they are.


As regards telling someone of a 'few pounds' over, I wouldn't bother but as someone has brought 'morbid obesity' into the discussion, then in that case a serious but gentle talk is needed.

Not something I ever had to contend with , weighed eight and a half stone when I got married in 1976 and still weigh the same.

[Butterbun]

Sqad, yes but slim people have these problems as well not just obese people.

[anneasquith]

hark at mamya !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

[askyourgran]

I agree sqad, my BIL is always telling my sis she looks wonderful (she is slim). smarmy b*stard he has no need to go on about it.
Whereas MrAsk is an ignorant so and so because he tells it like it is. i.e "Time you got some of that off lass".

[Mamyalynne]

Hello Anne,not quite sure what you mean , but ne'er mind.

[Clanad]

Hmmm... several have mentioned being married for many years,but, apparently, none have learned the lesson of approaching said frau and in an obviously concerned voice explain that this recent article (while holding the magazine in one hand) says women are especially prone to (whatever ailment) if they are overweight. Without missing a beat, said husband (or live in) add "... I've spent the better part of my life with you and I would find it really difficult to live without you..." and explain how much pain you would be in if something happened to her.

Never does the subject of how she looks come up, unless, of course she brings it up, in which case the uber husband would state "... I never thought of that, I'm just concerned about your health..." (which, hopefully, is at least semi-true!

I'm just saying...