Dear NoMercy,
Wow, your post touches many nerves with me as a male!
(a) Premenstrual Tension was not recognised when I was a child and teenager. If that is your problem, it seems quite mild compared with my mother. Every month, our loving family erupted between mam and dad - started by mam - mainly based on her "insane" jealousy. For 2-3 days we kids and dad had to suffer her verbally violent accusations against him.
(b) At work as a biochemically qualified researcher, a secretary came into my office and wanted my views on EPO. Her problem was that after taking it her "blood"-loss had become massive.
(c) After reminding her that I was not medically-qualified (legally necessary), I told her that EPO was never found as a natural human component and she should consider stop taking it until discussing with her GP. She never spoke of EPO's effects on her psychology - sorry.
So what can you do? First: Make Notes, preferably typed, of your concerns and discuss them with your GP. Leave a copy of your notes with your G.P. so that it is on your record and avoids future repetition.
Unfortunately I am unaware of drugs that can really help. Like many of us, face the fact that you have a seriously depressing condition; accept the fact that there is no medical solution and try to modify your life-style to acccomodate this cruel condition. Drugs are seldom a real answer to this sort of thing in fact side-effects can make problems worse.
Very Best Wishes NM,
SIQ.