Im In Love With My Best Guy Friend But My Best Friend (Girl) Dated Him And Still Wants Him Back, I Also Have A Boyfriend. Please Help!!

[Netflix_is_Life]

Okay so I have this best guy friend who I can tell him everything and he understands & I've fallen in love with him. but I have a boyfriend, all he wants is to make out & when we talk we end up fighting & he talks to these girls online who are his "horny buddys" basically since i wont give my self to him ( he gets mad but i have self respect so haha *** no) anyway he texts them and says hes horny then skypes them which they send nudes but put on a show for him too!?! its been *** for a while now and ive asked him to stop but he says "its not like i can actually have sex with them" and ive been unhappy in the relationship for a long time and ive tried to tell him that or hopes that he will break up with me cause i want to end it but he's depressed & im so scared if I end the relationship he will end his life but when I talk to my best friend he always makes me laugh & when im upset he is always there for me it doesnt matter what its about he is always there to comfort me & its the same way when he needs me + i know he feels the same way because he confessed his feelings & i confessed too. whats even worse is that on top of all that my !-best friend-ride or die-main ***-homie-my sister-! dated him & still isn't over the break-up, which was about 3-4 months ago.. I comfort her about it and i know for a fact that if i told her i like him she would hate me & that would be it for our friendship.so.please help idk what to do anymore, its been stressing me out alot.....

[woofgang]

So how old are you?

[jackthehat]

1. Get rid of your boyfriend. You are *not* responsible for his actions either now, or after you have broken up.
Then....
2. Talk to your intended boyfriend and see if he really *is* interested in becoming an item with you.
Then....
3. Tell your best-friend that you'll be seeing her ex and prepare yourself for any fall-out which is likely to occur.

[Old_Geezer]

Regarding your present relationship I['m sure you both have points, but it's not really working out for either of you so it may be time to consider breaking and moving on ? Just a thought.

He is very unlikely to go ending his life, everyone has to learn to take knocks, and in any case you can not limit your options because someone else might do something silly. If he opts to do something that is entirely his decision.

Do something about your exonerating relationship first, let the dust settle, then think about what is next.

If sounds to me as if a lot of dust needs to settle before you jump desperately from one relationship to potentially another. Let folk come top terms with whatever happens first, yourself included. Stay friends with those you wish to stay friends with.

[EDDIE51]

You lost me on line 18 that says >
''my!-best friend-ride or die-main***-homie-my-sister-!''
What was that supposed to mean?

[Netflix_is_Life]

Eddie51, it meant shes really important to me, shes all of those things & I don't want to lose her.

[Old_Geezer]

... about your existing relationship ....

Blooming spell check >:-(

[woofgang]

and the beloved has just changed from a boy to a girl??

[Old_Geezer]

That was the friend who dated him.

[Netflix_is_Life]

& just like I said.. im comforting her about the break up again because he texted her something sweet..

[woofgang]

OP I would get out of the middle of this one and stay well out.

[woofgang]

can I ask again how old you all are?

[Netflix_is_Life]

15. @woofgang

[woofgang]

You are going to hate me saying this but you are young. Dump the boyfriend who has you on a string and doesn't sound depressed to me, more like a sleazeball. Think about what you want to do about your male best friend and how you would feel if your female best friend and you were no longer friends then make a decision. Be honest with both of them.
You are going to hate this too but do I remember what 15 is like. believe me in 5 or even 3 years time all this stuff will be irrelevant to your adult self.

[utepoot]

I'm glad that you have asked for some help, albeit in an online forum. It makes me wonder, though, about your support system at home and through friends. I'd like to think that you have actual people to talk to when you have issues like this to discuss. My opinion about your situation is this: you are not a child anymore. The decisions you make right now regarding your relationships with men are going to be the basis for the way you deal with intimacy for the rest of you life. Think very carefully about where your loyalties lie. It won't seem like it right now, but you most likely won't even be friends with these people in five or ten years. The main point you need to remember is "RESPECT YOURSELF". Remember those words, and don't give in, and don't give up.

[Canary42]

Dump the current boyfriend - if he tops himself then that just confirms what an egocentric he is, and the relationship would never work anyway. But he's unlikely to do that - he's just being controlling/manipulative - get out from under NOW.