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Puppypaws | 18:53 Sun 02nd Aug 2015 | ChatterBank
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I work in a position of trust
A colleague has confided in me about another colleage on the same level.
The said person on my level is very dangerous and a compulsive liar.
The person has fabricated a life including people who are not real and kids.
I feel that although this dosent affect work as such, that this person cannot be trusted. The person causes bother in the work setting and we feel at risk.
Should i go to my manager? Or even above?
Its worrying me we are all at risk of the lies. I work in the medical profession.
The person admitted all this- but has now becoming nasty towards the person she admitted it to. Not sure this could be dealt with at my managers lever as they also would be involved then? Please help
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You can't go over your manager's head unless the person who you feel cannot be trusted is your manager. Have you got any objective proof at all that what you have been told is true or is it just the word of your colleague?
in what way are they "very dangerous"?
how do you know the alleger isn't the one who is lying?
no no no....say nowt !
Is she a member of AB?
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I saw a very long letter detailing everything that has been lied about - scary!!

I feel like my manager wouldnt be able to deal with it- too close to home
Almost.

Ive heard labour stories, kids doc appt the lot- there are no kids!

We care for people- and lies are made up about other colleagues too. I dont know how the person can be trusted.

I dont want to say anything but theres part of me that feels we are all at risk.
This person has done things that would get them "struck off"
"struck off" so they are a doctor? I repeat that you CANNOT go over your manager's head unless you believe that they are involved in the deception. Any attempt to do so would be likely to get back to your manager and they you would be in the do do. You say that you have seen a letter but I don't understand....are you saying that you have actual objective PROOF?
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Yes the letter- well "email" was from the person im talking about to another colleague admitting everything.

I feel if i go to my own manager it cannot be dealt with at that level.
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They make up lies constantly and cause trouble. I knew that. Some
People are just troublemakers... But its more serious now. I dont feel they can be trusted and infact feel like they are out to "get" us. I would hate a member of my family being cared for by this person.
Leave well alone. Unless you want to confronts them. I'd it doesn't affect your work, why do you care.
if it can't be dealt with at your managers level, just pass it onto him/her and then they can escalate it
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because the person is in a position of trust and makes up lies. Personal life i dont care about. At work i care about the lies and god only knows what is true and what isnt. Im quite frightened

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Thank you. Ill think on it.
I still feel that my manager is close to home.
If i went above it could possibly be anonymous BUT then the person who this was all admitted to would be blamed. I cant do that either. Its overwhelming
then dump it on your manager and let them decide waht to do
Yes, I agree, that's part and parcel of being a manager. Tell them your doubts " in confidence " and let them decide what to do about it.
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That makes sense.

Would you personally tell a manager then? Or not say anything at all?

Mabye i should hang fire and see what happens x
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Ps what i will say is that the thing the person done that was serious, my manager knew but it wasnt escalated. It involved another colleague or two and i dont think anyone wanted them to be in trouble but so it was ignored.
Discuss it discretely with your manager stressing what proof you have. Its then up to him to discuss it with his superiors and decide their course of action.
Very complicated story Puppy !

But if she is as horrid as you say, then report her to highest level you can...you know its makes sense !
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I cant find an employee adviceline to try.

I know when i heard the latest two stories i wish i hadnt!

But to stand there and hear the time off being agreed for kids school stuff or holidays or whatever and its all lies! Very frightening indeed

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