Problem Halved Problem Solved

[jennyjoan]

After just receiving a call from sista telling me first of all asking where was I (I was in bed with the pain in my arm) told her I was making dinner for dog.

Anway making a very long story short - one of our great nieces about 4 has been to her house and between this little one and her made arrangements to come to my house tomorrow for 6 hours so that the little one can play with dog.

1. I said I don't trust dogs and children together like Judge Judy
2. Is Dad coming - no - just her and me - I have met this child twice
3. I am not well but she will not take that on (is sick of me being sick)
4. She says I am an adult (her) I will be there (she is terrified of dogs)
5 I am an annoyed cos she made arrangements ie taxies -picking the child her up etc without consulting me first of all.

Anyway just after ringing me and telling me she is bringing the child up tomorrow.

I do not want to be responsible for 6 hours of dog and child - that's how long sista stays.

I am not well with lots of pain in my body so cannot run around like I used to

I am over 60 years of age.

I told her NO - so she said I am going to have call that child back and tell her she can't come - and hung up with a few derogatory words about me.

Why didn't she CONSULT me first. Then all what I have said before would have been mentioned. This child has met me twice -

Did I do wrong. I truly worry about child and dog together - we can't look after them for 6 hours all the time and this I would worry about. what do you think.

[bednobs]

a 4 year old cn't play with dog for six hours - six minutes is more likely before they get bored! It's rude to just invite someone to someone elses house!

[Mamyalynne]

She should have cleared it with you first - don't carry the guilt for stopping the visit.

Rest up and feel better soon.

[Tilly2]

As you say, problem solved. They're not coming.

[ummmm]

I would have said no.

[jennyjoan]

tilly - she is =- and probably not in great form - like I need that - I will see these wee ones at Xmas with pressies and that is my duty done.

[ummmm]

Phone her back and cancel.

[Mamyalynne]

So your sister is still coming to visit despite you telling her you are sick?

[jennyjoan]

she made a very big mistake just before my brother died - £4,000 inheritance came to us via a situation between her and me and my other brother - she got the cheque without consulting us and gave it all to my brother's sons - I genuinely didn't care because it was used for burying him - but wouldn't it have been nice to be asked.

[ladybirder]

I think you did the right thing. She was trying to bully you into doing what she wanted. Will your sister sulk now and fall out with you?

[jennyjoan]

sorry zacs

[Zacs-Master]

Not me Jenny but you need to look back at the threads you were involved in.

[ladybirder]

Ignore my post. She wasn't coming, or so I thought, when I started writing it. Tell her not to come.

[Mamyalynne]

I hope if she does visit she is helpful and or sympathetic as she knows you're not well.

[bednobs]

that is hpw wills work jj, funeral expenses must come out before any inheritances

[Tilly2]

Have you told your sister that you are not well, jenny?

[jennyjoan]

I don't think so she loves her dinner being made for her - I know I can be rude on here and maybe it is a way for me to get rid of stress but I sometimes can't handle her - no matter unbelieveable - if I say black - she says white and so it then goes into a row. Am sick of it to be honest. But believe me she is so kind to me - every week she brings something like a lamp or ornament - most of the time and I can never hurt her because of her loss of her son. His death believe me ruined the rest of my life no matter what else i came through. She never mentions his name, talks about him wittingly, funnily - NOTHING and it just like a massive void between us two. Don't get me wrong we do have some great Sundays and I enjoy those. I would never ever ever be fell out with her cos I couldn't cope.

[jennyjoan]

sorry Zacs and to all others.

[jennyjoan]

She knows when I am sick - it is all pain - so she accepts that and I accept that too.

[viv41]

Why are you apologising jj ?