I was friends with someone for over 30 years but suddenly realised that she only needed me when she wanted something that for her benefit. I have had arthritis for some years now but she never asked how I was when she phoned. She just launched into whatever it was that she wanted me to do for her. Anyway I stopped answering the phone and she eventually got the message. She phoned my daughter, ironically to ask if I was OK and my daughter put her straight. Probably the wrong way
of sorting things out but heyho!