What Should I Do?

[Justalonelygirl]

So I've met this guy about 2 weeks and a half ago, we are going to be classmates in the fall at university. He is really nice and sweet and we talk all day long, from the time we wake up and till we fall asleep, he really gets me and he said that I'm the first girl with whom he has so much in common, we get along pretty well. He supported me through my problems and I did the same for him and he said that he is starting to fall in love with me and that he can't wait to see me in a month and a half, when we start university. We text, call and videochat and we are talking about anything and I've started to fall in love with him. I've never had this kind of connection with anyone before and even though I haven't met him face to face I feel like he may be the one person I needed in my life for the past years. He said that he really wishes to be together with me and we call each other 'babe' and sometimes act like a couple. But I do have a big problem: the both of us got out of a relationship like one month and a half ago, the difference is that he was with his ex for 10 months and they've got along pretty well, compared to me who I was with my ex for 3 months only and we fought more. He still keeps in touch with his ex daily from what he told me, but my gut feeling is telling me that he is still not over his ex. This thought keeps bugging me daily and I'm feeling really down because I'm really starting to love with him and I want to start a relationship with him in the fall.

[Scarlett]

When I was at university, all my friends who arrived with boyfriends and girlfriends had split up with them by Christmas. Sounds to me like you are worrying about being alone, and want to be in a relationship with this boy as security. However, being at university should be the biggest adventure for you, and an exciting time in your life. It is hard to throw yourself into new things and new people if you are worrying about maintaining a new relationship before you even get there. I think the best advice is to start off as friends; don't expect anything from him. The reason you haven't connected well with anyone yet is that you may have just not met that many boys in your home town. At uni there will be many more people who are like you, similar interests etc. You may meet someone else even better than him! You may not like him in person! You may not physically fancy him either. He may take one look at you and decide the chemistry is not there. Just aim to be friends and don't put any pressure on him. Have loads of fun and make as many new friends as you can. THEN decide.