Beravement

[LadyTiffany]

Not sure if this is in the correct section. My father passed away 18 months ago and my mother isn't coming to terms with the loss. She is trying, by going to little afternoon clubs etc and trying to make friends, however, she is slowly slipping further into despair and is talking about ending her life. She will only talk to me, which is fine, however, I'm not a professional & I'm also still grieving, although coping better than my mother. I am worried beyond words. I'm trying to locate bereavement counselling groups in our area. She's already on medication for depression but I don't know what I can do to help her and I know it's only a matter of time before she herself harm. Thanks in advance for any advise.

[ummmm]

How old is she?

[Mamyalynne]

Are you able to contact her GP and see if they can refer her on to a Counsellor?

[Mamyalynne]

Also try......

http://www.cruse.org.uk/in-your-area

[ummmm]

And to add, 18 months is still early days.

[LadyTiffany]

she is a very young 74. (usually) I am going to phone her GP in the morning to seek advise and I have looked on the internet for counsellors, but it's a bit confusing, so yes, I will look at cruse. I have told her that there is no set time and it's not unusual to experience grief for a very long time, however, as I said earlier, I am no expert and am just saying what I think is right. I still weep everyday myself. I am an only child and have no one to talk to myself, and mom's grief, despair and now talk of ending her life is having a knock on affect on me, I don't want to lose her too, I just need to get her some help before it's too late.

[Mamyalynne]

I agree, it's not about stopping her grief but the talk of ending her life is obviously a concern for you.

Hope you both get some good advice and help.

[Zacs-Master]

For a start, this is way beyond you personally taking the responsibility to help her. She needs professional help which, if her GP is up to the mark, he will be able to sort. As an only child myself Who went through a little bit of what you're going through, I wish you well.

[LadyTiffany]

Thank-you everyone. I have just looked up Cruse on the net and have a number to call, so will do that first thing in the morning as well as contact her GP.

[mazie]

" I don't want to lose her too" Sit down with your Mum and tell her this Tiffany. I know it sounds like stating the obvious, but, she probably hasn't really thought that through in her grief..and keep telling her. How often do you see your Mum?