Im So Broken

[Blackrose9]

How do you get over heartache from a guy you believed was the one?

I'm really struggling. I cant eat. Im losing weight fast. I feel constant sick. I cant sleep. Im mentally drained.

There's 100% no chance of reconciliation. How can I heal quickly. This pains crippling me.

[ummmm]

It can be a slow process for some.

Go out and have fun with your friends. You might not feel like it to start with but if they can make you smile for a bit it'll be worth.

You might also get attention from other guys which can give you a confidence boost even if you don't act on it.

[Patsy33]

So sorry you are suffering. I don't think there will be a quick fix. By gradually focusing more on you, trying to eat a little, sleeping as much you can, keeping busy. Please don't bottle it all up. Is there a friend or relative you can talk to?

[emmie]

suggest a trip to the doctors first off, they can be sympathetic when they want to be, they might suggest a course of anti depressants. You can't heal quickly, sadly a broken heart doesn't go like that,
keep your chin up, one day you may see this in a totally different light.

[Cloverjo]

One day you'll look back and wonder what you saw in him. I know that doesn't help you now, but do as has been suggested. See your friends and have some fun. Try to eat a bit, even a cup a soup is better than nothing.

[emmie]

don't stop eating, that is a sure way to become physically ill. Even as suggested it;s soup and some bread, better than nothing at all.

[Sqad]

Do, I assume that he "dumped" you or are you not telling the full story.?

There is nothing you can do.....time may well heal.

Yes.....go out, parties, clubs, socialise.......and that will make you worse as you drive home alone. You may be "picked up" but it will be for only one thing..........

You've had the good times ....and now you have to deal with the bad times......just like thousands of women have to every day.

Yes, try the GP....antidepressants will work, but resign yourself to months of misery.

[Blackrose9]

I broke up. For very good reasons. I know I cannot ever take him back. Too many chances given. Im unable to be the doormat as its destroying me.

Im lucky I do have some lovely friends here. It's just when it's late at night, I'm living in my head.

I don't want anymore pain.

[ummmm]

Time is a healer. Your feelings will fade gradually.

[Sqad]

So....you dumped him.
Well now, you brought this on yourself then.
I am afraid it is going to be antidepressants and time that will heal this.
How old are you?
Would you say that you are attractive?

[Mamyalynne]

If we didn't feel pain and sadness we'd also be impervious to love and happiness.

This is part of being human - you will survive and as you say , you gave things the chance to be right but they weren't.

You'll get there gradually.x

[Prudie]

I went through this and cried myself to sleep for weeks. Agree grab any opportunity to do something that takes your mind off, it will get easier and easier. The real saviour for me was finding someone else.

[MallyJ]

You are evidently a brave woman with a great deal of common sense....too many people stay with partners who are not very good for them....On the positive side you have learned a few lessons and will be considerably stronger than you were. Go out, have fun, do some voluntary work, get involved in things that interest you. I also think that you need to give yourself time and space to grieve for what has gone..... Allow your frinds and family to help you. Well done. Be proud of yourself for doing what is right for you

[murraymints]

you WILL get over him..will just take time...occupy your mind..read..watch telly..come here..go out with friends..and EAT !!

[tamborine]

Write a list of reasons this relationship ended. Keep the list with you to remind yourself. Read books, play music, keep your mind occupied & when this closure depresses you read your list!

[jourdain2]

You mentioned 'doormat'. That is important. If that was how you felt, believe me that he wasn't the 'one'. I had to walk out of a marriage where I was fighting not to be trodden underfoot.

You will be OK eventually, honestly. Longer-term you may even be glad. (I think you will be.)

Sqad is right in that anti-depressants will help you over the start of this. They will enable you to rejoin normal life. Join a choir or something (singing releases serotonin, I believe, anyway, you feel better), see more of your friends and family, treat yourself to some new clothes now you have lost weight. Eat little and often and things you like - even if it is chocolates for a week!

I do know how this feels. It won't be quick, but you will heal. :) x

[jourdain2]

Just read Prudie's answer. I also then found Mr. J2. :o)

[jno]

what did you do with your time before you met him?

[Old_Geezer]

Time is the healer. May help to recall you were happy before you met them so there's no reason to suppose you won't also be happy when you've "moved on". Life is full of highs and lows. You've hit a low but the future is upwards.

[Old_Geezer]

Just read your 2nd post. Seems like you made the right choice anyway. You need to come to terms with it ans that's still time related. Meanwhile there's s benefits to being free and single, and plenty of time to find a better relationship should you decide that you want one.

[Old_Geezer]

AND
and no single s was typed !