Robbing Nephew

[FISH66]

I have a Nephew aged 26. Despite coming from a good background and being bought up by decent parents, he has always been trouble from a young age. His parents split up some years and his siblings are a joy to meet but he ended up in a youth prison. For the last decade he has been requesting money from my elderly parents. They're are not rich , live in a council house both worked all their lives and live comfortably on pensions. My Dad admits they don't spend money on anything apart from four cans of Carlings once a fortnight. When I first suspected my nephew who I must say is not using force when ''borrowing money'' My brother made him pay it back. The other day baliifs came to door looking for my nephew who had given My Mum and Dads adrress again ( it happened before) looking for money. My Mother and Father always denied there is a problem, my nephew uses charm with my Mother to extract money. I saw my Dad the other day and he confessed to me he had given him thousands. paid his rent in Croydon and then Manchester where he has tried to start a new life but always comes back. Every time I speak to my nephew he swears it wont happen again. I spoke to the Police some years back who suggested that my parents take out a county court judgement against him something like a non-molestation order. As soon as I mentioned this to my parents they went nuts. The thing is I need to do something as it will go on and on till they both die. Can I and my get a court order without my parents consent to have him banned from my parents house and can I contact my parents bank and become a 3rd party to watch over their funds.

[murraymints]

nope.. if they are competent and able..it has to come from them

[murraymints]

I also have such a nephew !

[Smowball]

My in- laws have this with their son( my brother in law) . Have given him thousands.....

[Barmaid]

MM is right, if they both have capacity there is nothing you can do.

Might I suggest that you sit down (perhaps with your brother) and your parents and have a gentle chat with them. It is a difficult subject to broach because they probably a) feel some familial duty towards him and b) probably feel a bit stupid. You can lead a horse to water tho.......

Depending on how vulnerable they are, you *could* make a referral to Adult Social Services but if they are sprightly and know their own minds that is likely to come to nowt.

Upsetting as it may be sometimes we cannot protect people from their own folly.