I Feel Helpless

[queenofmean]

A very close friend whom I met via Facebook is going through a horrid situation. I've been in a very similar situation and I feel helpless that I can't be there to help her.

I was up at 6am consoling her.

I couldn't be any further away if I tried to be and it kills me.

We are both Diabetics and both recovering from a diabulimia - we talk everyday. We play guessing games when we check our readings, we grumble together and we are very much alike.

I just want to hug her and tell her it's going to be ok.

[mccfluff]

she has you for support, you may not be able to physically hug her but I'd bet having you to lean on means the world to her.

[queenofmean]

Thank you McFluff.
You are right, I just always feel I could do more.

[jno]

indeed, having someone who'll be up at 6am must be comforting. Not sure I'd be able to rustle up a friend that good.

[Mamyalynne]

At horrible times in our life, simply having a sounding board is help beyond measure - do what you can and accept how distance limits more.x

[MallyJ]

Hugs come in all shapes, sizes and forms.....just like people. You are hugging her from a distance.... you are going out of your way to give her support and show your love and concern from a distance..... sometimes that is just what is needed..... we don't need to see the people who love us and care for us....we can feel it. I am absolutely certain you friend is very thankful for all your love and care. She would do the same for you x

[albaqwerty]

Your friend will appreciate you more than you will ever know Queenie.
Just by having someone available, irrespective of the hour is comforting beyond words. xx

[queenofmean]

I'd only just got up to get a drink jno when her message came through. Must have been a sign. She's just got back in from the ER.

Thank you Mamya :) x

[queenofmean]

Thank you Mallyj and Alba.

You are both right.

Makes me laugh - she calls us Twinsies.

[marval]

You are doing everything you can Queenie, being far apart doesn't stop you being a good friend. I am sure she appreciates you being online, sometimes a virtual hug is all it takes.
\tes

[queenofmean]

Thank you Marval. She is doing ok is with her doctor so just awaiting to hear what is happening.

[queenofmean]

Just thought it would be best to let you know.

She is doing ok and is glad that I am there - feel better now. Friend is awaiting call from eye hospital in a further town but her Dr is doing his damndest to get her seen - which I am relieved about. She seems upbeat but a little down as the procedure she needs done will affect her work - greatly but she is looking to find a solution.

She showed me her eye scan from yesterday and I nearly died with shock!

But she’s doing well and that’s the main thing :)