Life As A Morbidly Obese Person

[Islay]

Yesterday’s thread got me thinking and actually kept me awake for most of last night, fuelling thoughts and feelings that I thought were behind me.
So I thought I would give you an insight into my life for those that think it’s easy to lose weight – I mean sure you just control what you put in your mouth don’t you?
On January 31st 2017 I weighed 31 stone I now weigh under 20 stone!
It gets to the point where you weigh so much that there is no point in dieting as anything you can lose is just a drop in the ocean and that is the point I got too.
It took all my effort to get out of bed in the morning shower and drive to work. But I did work full time and tried to have a social life but it got to the point where I hated going out in public. If I dared step outside of the office the stares that I got and comments made to my face was horrendous. Now some may think that it should have been the boot I needed to diet – but it didn’t because I would reach for another cake and tell myself that I can eat what I want its others that have the problem – how is me being fat affecting them – what business of theirs that I am fat. You know it was nothing to do with them and they are just mean small people that should have been raised with better manners.
Then it gets to the point that you can’t stop eating, you need the joy that food gives you because you have so little joy in your life. You pretend to be happy and jolly and the life and soul so that people cannot see what you really feel inside how vulnerable you really are.
Now I have been called many names over the years most are not printable, yes I come across as blunt and harsh but you need to think about what you are saying to a person. There has been some horrid things written about me and I am sure that following this there will be some more.
But you know what? Bring it on I can change and am changing, the people that think its ok to ‘diss’ a fat person for eating a lot in a restaurant will always be narrow minded and bitter people.
So I am asking you not to judge a fat person you don’t know the whole reason for them being as they are. Just be grateful that you are not one of them!

[Islay]

Lol Tambo not offended at all, I just bought good old fashioned sturdy furniture with chunky legs.
My bed is cast iron - cost me a fortune but has lasted over 15 years!

[murraymints]

well done..quite an achievement...good luck with the onward journey

[tamborine]

Weve reinforced a basin chair in the salon but seats are not made wide enuf for xxxlarge & we resort to a stool. How does your salon manage you?

[Islay]

Well now its not a problem but I would only go to large chain salons as they tended to have bigger chairs

[tamborine]

just goes to show our ignorance of obese probs, thanx

[Smowball]

Islay I didn’t even think about simple things we take for granted such as the hairdressers - you must have had a lot of seemingly trivial things that caused you problems, bless you x

[ladybirder]

Yes well done Islay, you must feel reborn.

BTW, TWR put For not TO, i.e. you did it FOR yourself, so I think that was meant to be a compliment. You did it for yourself, not for somebody else.

Whatever, well done.

[BAKERS DOZEN]

Islay - Just read through yesterdays post and can only agree there are some very weird people in this world. People like that are nothing but oxygen thieves. Would just like to add my congratulations on your progress so far and add what an uplifting set of answers on today's post. Well done to you and to everyone else for their support. BDxx

[Islay]

My sincerest apologies TWR I read that totally wrong. Thank you

[hereIam]

Blimey that's a truly brilliant weight loss Islay, very well done to you.

[hc4361]

Your back, hips, knees, ankles and feet are partying, Islay :)

[Hazi-Hammenuhoth]

Islay, first a massive congratulations on yoir weight loss, you havd done yourself proud. Bit as to yoir point about very fat people thinking it's no-one elses business I have to disagree. I can generally ignore morbidly obese folks but there are some situations which make it impossible. I the "pleasure" of flying economy from Dubai to London wedged next to a morbidly obese gentleman who overflowed in all areas, pushing heavily into my shoulder, arm and thigh for a straight 8 hours, sweated copiously and gave off an increasingly repulsive odour. He snored like a hippo in a dishwasher and as he waddled up the gangway to the loo in the middle of the night several times we all had to clear out as he bashed into sleeping folk up the plane. He gave off an incredible amount of heat which was unwelcome too. There are some situations like this which are hugely unfair to inflict on other people and he should have been forced to pay for 2 or preferably 3 seats so that other passengers didnt have to suffer as a result of his obesity. Basically, my point is, be obese by all means, but be aware that it can cause massive unpleasantness and discomfort for others also and think ahead.

[pixie374]

I admire your openness a lot, as well. I don't think anything or anyone is going to stop you now :-) xx

[Islay]

Hazi I could respond to all your points but I am not sure that it would make any difference to your point of view, I can only apologise on behalf of the large gentleman you were stuck next to and say had you considered how he was feeling.
I do feel marvellous I have by bad days where I still get down but on the whole I am so happy and looking forward to new things like walking around Dublin zoo like I did in September.
I thank you for your kind words I am blushing but please be assured that's not why I posted this. xxx

[DTCwordfan]

Congrats Islay and keep it going. I am portly and know what it takes to shed 3,5 stones as I have done - and its a fight to ensure that it doesn't come back (don't recommend salmonella but that shed some gain off and so far it has stayed off). What's your target weight and dress size..... Will you need ops for excess skin? Sorry if I am being intrusive....

[hc4361]

May I suggest you keep a record of the positives you experience as you lose weight, the little things that affect your day to day life and the big things.
Such as struggling less to cut your toe nails; finding it easier to walk to the local shop; the car seems a lot more roomy; getting out of the bath.

I don't want to throw cold water on your fireworks but you will have very low days (it's natural with such a massive change in yourself and your lifestyle) and reading the list may cheer you up and keep you motivated.

[Islay]

Surgeon says 14 stone as I will be carrying 2 stone of excess skin so after the ops to remove that I will be about 12 stone.
Apparently because of my age that is the lowest the surgeon suggests I go down to.

[Islay]

Oh and I will have a boob lift, excess skin off my arms, fleur de lyse tummy tuck and thigh lift in the next couple of years.

[hc4361]

How old are you, Islay?

[Islay]

45