Ohh What To Do For My Gay Son

[Rosielee123]

My son was kicked out by his dad 20 years ago because he was gay and my husband hated it, he became bitter about it as he was an alpha male and could never come to terms with his boy being "bent" and that was the only word I can print as the real words he used were very offensive.
I had to follow his words as he was a violent alcoholic right until he died last year.

My son now wants to come and see me with his partner which is fine but I'm really worried about putting my foot wrong and upsetting him or his partner and having him out of my life again as I don't have much time left.

How do I say sorry about not being able to stick up for him against my husband and letting him go like that?

How do I tell him that I never stopped thinking about him and that I never cared if he was gay as he was and is my son regardless?

Time is running out for me and I need to tell him I love him but how?

His father went to the grave hating his boy and his boy hating him and it burns me every day.

I wish I had the guts to stand up to my husband but I was scared.

What do I do?

[murraymints]

I agree he is reaching out to you which can only be good x

[Kromovaracun]

Rosie, the exact words that you say to him don't matter so much as the act of meeting with him and trying. If he's agreed to meet you, chances are that he will understand. Show your son that you love him. Tell him that you love him over and over again. Hold him as tightly as you can. Never, ever let him forget how much you love him.

I'm truly sorry that this has happened to your family. You both have a chance now to actually heal, and I really hope this gives the two of you some peace.

[Islay]

Show him what you have written here, or if its easier write them in a card and send them to himxx
Bless you what an awful situation to be in