jj - set up a fund/charity or contribute to one that your bros would have appreciated and using the proceeds of your sales of worldly chattels.
Many here have issues of illness/weight or whatever...not decrying that you too are one of them and I hope things get better for you. Tonight, I am wrestling with the thoughts my 19 year old, over on her gap year from a course for Xmas, has been admitted to hossie - could be anaemia, a gastric issue like mini-veins popping or even Vibrio cholera from the time she spent in the waters of Hurricane Harvey helping that Nat Guard get old folk evacuated....tomorrow will be another day - and we all should try and spin positively, hence my suggestion...xx