Is It Acceptable To Go To A Funeral But Not The Wake?

[anthro-nerd]

It's the funeral of a very close family friend tomorrow and I know I'm going to be so upset. I am going to the funeral, but I wanted to miss the wake - but don't want this to be seen as disrespectful. The reason being that it's going to be a huge affair (hundreds of friends) and my they'll be primarily my mother's friends too... who passed away 8 years ago. It's going to bring a lot back. So I want to pay my respects at the funeral, but would it be disrespectful to miss the wake?

[ummmm]

I've often gone to funerals with my MIL and she rarely goes to the wakes. She'd turn up for the funeral of a dead snail.