Just A Chat

[tinkerbell23]

I just fancied a chat.... no question as such!!

Someone tonight said “oh you are the one whos pregnant”

I replied that I was but am not now as it didnt work out. I almost cried, there were a few people around. I felt for the person too but it was really difficult.

It happens alot.... every other week someone random who dosent know my situation asks if I dont want any kids or how many kids I have!

I say none, but I personally think “one”!

Nobody means any harm, but god.... it hurts xx

[rowanwitch]

Tinks, that 11 hour labour cruel as it feels right now validates you lost a baby, a real little person. In years to come you will still be saddened but in a way it was the last thing you could do as a mother, freeing it to the world with pain like your baby's living counterparts.

Hopefully you will still go on to be a mother again, a second and maybe third sibling. But for now it is time for sadness and healing.

[murraymints]

aw Tinks..time helps...feel so sad for you...what Rowan said..big hugs xx

[horselady]

Tinks, I went through much the same with my first baby, a long, long time ago. I went on to have two more babies who are now parents themselves. I remember him on what should have been his birth date and on the day he actually arrived. Like me, you will never forget your little one, but also like me, I hope that life brings you happiness. Needless to say, I am now making my keyboard extremely damp.

[tinkerbell23]

Thank you for lovely words you are all correct!!

Horselady especially thank you for sharing your loss with me & im sure happier times are ahead for me too!!!

Having the girls round for dinner tonight looking forward to it xx

[tinkerbell23]

Naomi, absolutley.... the baby was clearly unwell.... it wouldnt have had a nice life! It was meant to be .... or was not meant to be!xx

[DTCwordfan]

Yep, Tinks, nature's way of saying things weren't right enough. My ex an I went through 5 miscarriages, one of them an ectopic though we caught it in time....two perfectly okay girls did arrive though! The first time is ghastly, it gets easier though and if you bear in mind my opening line....... crass remarks though do not help.

The one thing we realised is just how many women have experienced a miscarriage - it's more numerous than one initially realises.

Keep strong, keep chatting!

[naomi24]

Tinks, very sad and very hard for you ... but for the best. x

[Theland]

My daughter had a baby that died in the womb and she had to go ahead and give birth. A terrible experience for her, and all the family.
She and her other children still remember and write cards at Christmas and birthday to, "baby James," and it took a while for my daughter to bounce back.
Keep talking Tinks.

[agchristie]

Very sorry to read this Tinks x

[tinkerbell23]

The girls are just away had a nice wee meal & a chat!!!

I was overwhelmed by how many people contacted me to say “me too” ...... its not really spoken about as much!!

Thank you all again so much xxx