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Don't know how I'm going to get through it, daughter still not speaking to me after my granddaughter died when I was supposed to be looking after her
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Please don't blame yourself. In time, I'm sure your daughter will see things differently. Try and be strong for your daughter. She needs someone to blame at the moment, and as been mentioned, it's always those nearest and dearest to us. A very sad time for you all. Treasure the time you had with your little granddaughter. I wish you all strength. xxx
Were you expected to keep a 24/7 watch on the baby? Did someone tell you to? Because that's the only thing that I can think of that would make you think that any of this horrible and sad situation is your fault. Anger in bereavement is very common and as others have said, it usually gets taken out on our nearest. I am so sorry for your loss and for your daughter's loss but please don't berate yourself. I hope that you reconcile soon.
I'm sure she has and I'm sure you have thought the same too- it's human to think.. what if, if only, I should have... rationally, you all know there is nothing you could have done to prevent it. If you could, you would have. Nobody is feeling rational right now. I wish I could change it for you all xx
Tracie. I posted on here a few weeks ago about an old friend of my son’s. His 14 month old daughter suddenly died in his arms and there was nothing that could be done. Air ambulance attended to no avail.
These deaths are unbelievabley tragic but they do, happen.
Your daughter is grieving. It was Not your fault!
These deaths are unbelievabley tragic but they do, happen.
Your daughter is grieving. It was Not your fault!
It would make me feel wretched,guilty and not wishing to go on - all of that coupled with your Daughter's take on this must be almost impossible to bear.
Bear it you must sadly.
She is trying to convince herself that death didn't creep in silently and take the little one but that you missed something - you didn't.
Bear it you must sadly.
She is trying to convince herself that death didn't creep in silently and take the little one but that you missed something - you didn't.
Traci - do you need professional help soonest....I ask as things may seem incredibly black at the moment (understandable) but, if you do, may I suggest sooner than later - This wasn't of your making....if you need help with a contact number, I am sure there will be folk who can direct you to the best resource.....