Help Me Understand About Past Dating

[Linkinparkrocks]

I have been Thinking and wondering about dating in past why they made so much fuss and effort to get me to go out with them but then every opportunity they would make comments about how ugly I am and they can get better every opportunity they got they asked all my friends out and my sisters friends but when they got turned down They would make out they were so into me until they meet someone better again every cycle has been the same even when younger boys acted in same way one guy use to say to me am best of the best baby and don’t you forget it and other phrases also always made out every one fancied him still gets his sister to give me messages to this day reminding how I am getting uglier why is this why do men or boys do this just wondering

[Old_Geezer]

Unsure why this is in the "Phrases & Sayings" forum, but, ho hum...

Sounds like you've been going out with immature folk. I take it that you're still at school. Worth realising than when young there is a lot of experimentation regarding finding out who is right for them, so relationships may not last long as folk move on to another potential partner. Few schoolkids are wanting to settle down. Many aren't confident in themselves, and just a few will put down others to make them feel better about themselves. (But try not to confused friendly teasing with real put-downs. Life can be confusing to work out at times. Other people especially so.)

And some feel a need to give themselves an excuse for ending a relationship so try to convince themselves that something was wrong with you, rather than honestly admit they simply wished to move on.

Were I you I'd ignore those being nasty. Seek out more mature minding types to be friends with.

[Linkinparkrocks]

Question may of come out a little wrong but no I am not in school am a adult and was nearly every day put downs not just a joke here and there was wondering if something wrong with me as to why every relationship same if get me and why they felt need to

[Old_Geezer]

Maybe you are simply attracted to the wrong people. Perhaps try meeting less controlling types.

[woofgang]

I would never victim blame but its a known phenomenon for people to be attracted to people who will abuse them...have you ever been to a counsellor?

[ToraToraTora]

"why do men or boys do this just wondering " - most of them don't you must have been mixing with some complete rissoles.

[Linkinparkrocks]

I have never been to a counsellor about this no about my bullying and aniexty yes but never about my relationships I am not trying to bad mouth or trying to blame anyone myself just like trying to understand but thinking long and hard about it does actually make sense to be fair but I actually have not been in a relationship for very long time nearly 16 years next month I was just trying to like understand past issues

[Linkinparkrocks]

I am to scared to be in any form of relationship to be fair eny thought of crushing on any one or any kind of feelings even if other person not interested even if just on my part I freak out trying to like piece what’s going on like trying to understand things