Should A Man Even Try To Find A Girlfriend When He Is This Flawed As An Individual Or Should He Just Stop Trying To Be Safe?

[MM305]

The flaws here consists of the flaws I have mentioned about myself, but there do exists males who possess either some or all of these faults to:

- If that person was known for having airhead/idiotic tendencies,

- Grew up with any speech/mental disabilities or obstacles,

- Does not have the luxuries to live a normal adult life (license, car, job, money, house) and is not able to physically attract folks because of not having these luxuries and no being considered good-looking

- Was never incredibly popular in School because they did not have the skills in any popular major (for example, sports or music),

- Doesn't listen to the music that happens to be considered "the cool thing" for everyone else and instead listens to the music that would get them bullied, and that individual isn't physically and mentally strong and/or capable of defending themselves for any assault

Should he give up his hope of trying to find a girlfriend or does he take the risk?

[ummmm]

How old?

[JimF]

Depends. If he's gay, he'd be better off trying to find a boyfriend.

[MM305]

I define a man as someone 21 or older.

And this is about a guy trying to find a GIRLfriend, so he can’t be gay if there’s an interest to ladies.

[JimF]

I reckon he's in denial and should come out of the closet.

[shoota]

'or does he take the risk?'
What risk?

[Prudie]

As at least 50% of men in happy relationships tend to have airhead/idiotic tendencies I don't think that's a barrier at all.

[Old_Geezer]

One should concentrate on perceived and genuine plus points, not on believed disadvantages. If things go your way then fine, but don't be desperate, just enjoy the present, make the most out of whatever you do, keep an eye out for opportunities, and accept whatever life brings you.

[MM305]

@shoota- the risk of being laughed at/dumped on by a lady he tries to date because of his flaws.

[Tilly2]

This sounds very familiar. Do we know you?

[Tilly2]

Just checked. Yes, we do. I was sure you had a different name though.

[ummmm]

Maybe a girl wouldn't consider them flaws. The man might just be insecure.

[Mamyalynne]

You have a very negative view of yourself, that is your right of course but if you transmit that negativity in everyday life when meeting people you'll never form strong bonds with anyone.

Relax,live and see what happens.

[shoota]

Lol @ Jim - I think your advice is going to waste...

[Barmaid]

Sounds to me that he needs to work on himself before he thinks about a relationship. Unless and until he is comfortable with himself any relationship is more than likely doomed to failure. He needs to love himself (or even like himself) before he tries to love someone else.

I'd suggest some form of counselling to deal with self esteem and confidence issues.

[MM305]

I don’t even know what a corprophiliac means.

Plus Mamyaalynne, there are some who actually tries to be positive towards the people he hangs out with, but his flaws ends up making him being laughed at/dumped, making him unsure if it’s worth finding a girlfriend or not.

[jackthehat]

I suggest he gives up now....forever.
Because *all* women are exactly the same and he will receive exactly the same response from *all* of them wherever he may be.

[CrapAtCryptics]

Before someone else can like you, you have to like yourself and it sounds like you dont.

[Tilly2]

Why concentrate on the flaws? Try the strengths instead.
What are your strengths?

[pastafreak]

We all have flaws...they just aren't the same for all of us. And do you really want a girlfriend who is attracted to you because of your car, license, or whatever. The right job and house come later for most...and sometimes after the BF or GF. You want someone who is attracted to you, not the material things you may not have yet. Being different or quirky can be attractive to other quirky people. Concentrate on learning to like YOU.
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