No Will

[fruitsalad]

After someone I know recently died without leaving a will or written instructions on what they would and would not like regarding funeral arrangements it got me thinking, although I dont own anything of valuable, so don't see the need for a will, I would like to leave written instructions, regarding my choices, at my funeral, I've never liked talking about it, and tend to change the subject if someone else does, but my question is who do I address the letter to? I have 2 grown up sons and a husband who is 12 years older than me, (although I realise age doesn't necessarily mean he would go before me. Do I address it to husband or sons, or all of them.

[barry1010]

You don't need to address it anyone. I have written on the appropriate envelopes 'My Will' and 'My Funeral Wishes'. The family knows about them and where they are kept - which is somewhere obvious in case somebody else needs to find them.

[fruitsalad]

Makes sense thank you.

[bednobs]

Just be aware there is no obligation for anyone to follow your wishes anyway

[barry1010]

bednobs, there are ways to persuade loved ones to follow your wishes. make it a condition of any bequest :)

[bookbinder]

You could give them all a copy each.

[bednobs]

My mother in law was absolutely adamant she didnt want to be cremated as it scared her. Sadly, when the time came, no-one had the extra money to bury her, so cremation it was

[jakep]

I agree with bookbinder.
I would make three separate copies and give them one each. You simply don’t know what is around the corner. Could be family fall outs, accidents etc.
Three copies is more of a safeguard for your wishes.

[Atheist]

Best to simply make a will. Not very expensive, and it gets everything sorted without having to rely on advice from AB (except from me, of course Lol)

[Peter Pedant]

o god make a will - saves family quarrels and the ringing phrase
I want my share and I want it now!

and put in instructions. address your letter to the executor who will probably be your dear husband

if you can think about your death and funeral yu can certainly think of a will

[tinkerbell23]

This might upset people.... but thought provoking xx

https://youtu.be/bYy4q8R9kro