Should I Just Shave My Head?

[undiagnosed_adhd]

I’ve been wanting to shave my head for a while. At first I wanted an undercut, but I realized I had too many split ends and tangles from the years of damage my mother did by straightening and relaxing it. She’s always wanted me to have long, beautiful, and curly hair. For a while, she influenced me to want the same thing. Over the years, I’ve seen many people with many hairstyles and decided I want to shave my head. I like the look of it, but my mom doesn’t want me to. She says I’ll look like a boy or that people will judge me (I of course had already put such things into consideration and still don’t care). I tried reasoning with her telling her that it’s quarantine so there’s no better time to experiment. That I wanted to express myself this way and didn’t care what others would think. When I finally told her that I wanted to start over with my hair and that it would be more manageable, she finally started to half listen. Apparently me wanting to express myself and boost my confidence And mental health wasn’t a good enough argument. I should also probably mention that I am 17 so I am old enough to make my own decisions and that she’s a very controlling and narcissistic woman. In the end, she said she didn’t want me to cut my hair at all, because it’s her house her rules (again ignoring that it would only help me. She usually only lets me do something if it benefits her), but that she would let me go down to 3 inches if I got it done professionally. This of course is not what I want. She plans on leaving when I turn 18, so she’d only see it for a little less than a year. I’ve stopped caring what her or others think of me a while ago, but I want to see what others opinions were from an outside perspective.

[JimF]

Yes. Bald is beautiful.

[eleanor2]

Username .. hmm! If your serious?

[eleanor2]

*you're*

[eleanor2]

It helps if you look like her! ;0)

[JimF]

I don't look like her...

[barry1010]

Takes a lot of maintenance. You sure you are not just finding a way to stick two fingers up to your mum? This look also attracts a lot of attention, it is a narcissistic thing to do. Can you handle it?

[Old_Geezer]

Why would it help to look like the Joker ?

[Prudie]

Don't many people get 'unacceptable to their parents' hair styles round the 16-19 age? It's perfectly normal and no big deal, doesn't really need to be dissected and analysed first. Just do want you want.

[Apc2604]

My lovely naturally blond son decided at 15 he wanted red hair. At that time he had his thick hair in curtain style. It was school holidays and I decided that if he wanted red hair then so be it, as long as I could do it for him to save hair dye going everywhere. In other words do what you like with your hair, ignore your mother. (Son regretted the red hair when it faded to pink and had to grow out. It was a semi permanent that was permanent!)

[Canary42]

Yes, go for it. Then tell everyone you did it for charity, that'll get you more kudos ;-)

[shoota]

Better still, do it for charity....

[woofgang]

your hair, your choice.....but whose house actually is it? you say she says her house her rules and then you say she plans on leaving in a year's time.

[Prudie]

On his 18th birthday my husband had his natural dark hair shaved into a mohican and dyed peroxide blond. His mother went berserk :-)

[allenlondon]

Undiagnosed ADHD?

What was the line in Life of Brian? “Symptomatic of his struggle with reality more like...”

[Peter Pedant]

yeah I wanna do that
I have terrible old man's cradle cap

[shoota]

PS - Shaved is better than undercut IMO.

[aelmpvw]

//hair shaved into a mohican and dyed peroxide blond//
blond? what was he thinking?

[Apc2604]

I have just looked up what an undercut hair style is, and I agree with Shoota. Shaving the whole lot off looks better. But I don't like either, unless you are extremely beautiful/good looking. That undercut look is just ugly!

[retrocop]

Can't stand seeing shaved heads on men or women.Reminds me of Bergen-Belsen inmates. Ughhhh

[undiagnosed_adhd]

@barry1010. A bald head takes a lot less maintenance than the black, curly mass on my head. As I said before, I’ve put many factors of a shaved head into consideration. I was already aware it would attract attention which is why I wanted to do it in quarantine since hardly anyone would see me. No this isn’t a way to flip the bird at my mom as I wouldn’t be doing doing it for anyone but me. I guarantee you this isn’t a narcissistic thing to do, it is simply a form of expression the same way a musician expresses themselves through their music.