ChatterBank1 min ago
Eek!
I've met a man who is actually my doctor. He is a similar age to me. I felt `vibes' from him. (I've had 4 appointments for an ongoing issue) He's very sweet and seemed to get tongue-tied a couple of times. He has only very recently moved to the area as have I.
My problem is that I am very shy. I can chat to him and have a laugh but I couldn't imagin furthering things with him.
I have found out that he is not married but I don't know if he is single or not. I really want to find out as I can't stop thinking about him.
I'm 27 years old.
I looked him up on Friend Reunited and he said that he'd recently moved to the area and had bought a new house yet he made no mention of a girlfriend. Does this mean he's single?
I do get the feeling that he likes me but I can't be sure.
Please advise. I'm going out of my mind.
Helster.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Oh dear helster - this could be putting him in a very difficult professional situation Ethically he can't afford to get himself emotionally involved with one of his patients without making himself very vulnerable to a charge of professional misconduct so he's going to be careful to conduct himself with great care when dealing with you in a medical capacity.
If he really does like you, is single and might be interested in seeing you in a social capcity, maybe the only way round this, next time you see him as a patient, is to say jokingly "I think I'm going to have to change my doctor - I'm starting to enjoy coming to see you too much! " or something along those lines.
If he's interested and can't take the hint and follow through then when you've given him that kind of innocuous opening,. I think you'll just have to accept that he's being very friendly but doesn't want to take it any further. However hard it is, don't press it and put him in a dificult situation. He's devoted five years of his life to getting qualified and can't afford to wreck his career by finding himself in a complicated situation with a patient.
Good luck and start thinking of a suitable excuse for your next visit. Do your tetanus injections need bringing up to date ???
20. You must not allow your personal relationships to undermine the trust which patients place in you. In particular, you must not use your professional position to establish or pursue a sexual or improper emotional relationship with a patient or someone close to them.
If you really want to pursue something, he neds you to be completely off his patient register, otherwise any hint of an approach from you he will have to strike you off himself and pass you to another doctor.
So first things first, change doctors before it goes too far.
He's a Chiropractor. Will he be aware of this ruling? Maybe that might explain a few things.
My appointments with him will end very soon as the issue he's dealing with is nearly dealt with.
How can I let him know that I like him and that i'd like him to get intouch when I'm done without compromising is position?
Thankyou so much for your help.
Hx
If he likes you then let him make the first move. Honestly it could make things very difficult for him if you do. I take it that you are seeing him privately (ie paying) and he's not your GP?
The only suggestion that might work if he has told you himself that he is new to the area is maybe to tell him about some kind of event that might help him to make friends with ther locals and mention that you will be there because you too are nrew to the area...then see what happens.
Brutally though I do thinkl its very likely that you are misinterpreting the signs......
I'm not sure that chiropractors are covered by the same rules as doctors - if he's not working for the NHS and isn't covered by the General Medical Council (I think that's the rule-setting body), then he may well be free to see you out of hours. (I've often thought that having a chiropractor around the house would be very useful indeed.) Can other ABers confirm this?
In which case, the usual rules of attraction apply. If you fancy him, and you think he's not going to make the first move, then you'll have to do it yourself. What have you got to lose? The worst he can do is say no.