Husband. Erratic Moods, Anger, Frustration.

[Patsy33]

Although my OH has never been diagnosed, he certainly displays traits of bipolar. His Mother was the same. Diagnosed with Hypomania.
He's just been thumping computer and monitor in frustration because he couldn't do something that should have been straight forward. He's like an angry , frustrated child at times. Last couple of weeks, he's been on a high. Excited, keep laughing about things. He has so much energy when he's like that. I wasn't going to say anything but it's getting me down. I suppose I should ring doctor but doubt they will do anything much. They will probably say he needs to go and seem them. I know he won't do that..Just needed to get this off my chest.

[Bobbisox1]

Sorry ,crossed posts , I wish you lots of luck and I hope he listens Patsy

[Sqad]

Nay !!!!!

[Patsy33]

No, it's not that, jj109. He has regular blood tests.

[Chinajan]

Whatever the cause of this behaviour, the effect of it is emotionally abusive to you and something has to change so that you don't live in fear and misery. Please reassure us that you're not in physical danger?

You've taken a very brave first step here Patsy.

[Sqad]

Patsy.....may I have your permission to tell a story of which your thread has reminded me.....?

[Mamyalynne]

Patsy, I agree with others - you really do have to share your concerns with someone professional and get sound advice.

Take care and keep in touch with us please.

[eleanor2]

Patsy, is there a contact via email available on your doctors website? This is available at my surgery & you can explain everything in detail that way.

[eleanor2]

Yes this needs sorting. That’s such a long time to live with a partner if he has this.

[Smowball]

I know it’s not much Patsy but you do know that all of us are always here and there is always someone here to talk to and listen x

[calmck]

I really feel for you and hope you can find a solution. Possibly Toby is picking up on the mood swings and angst and it is affecting him as well

[Patsy33]

He's never hurt me physically, but psychologically/mentaly. Thanks for all your replies I will definitely let the doctor know somehow. I need to do something..
Ok sqad..

[hellywelly4]

If he goes to the doctor for blood tests perhaps the doctor could ask to see him after one of these on some pretext or other? If you write the the doctor I'm sure that something can be worked out. I do sympathise with you.

[Smowball]

That’s a good idea hellywelly - call him in for a ‘blood test’ then move onto a chat…..

[jno]

a GP probably won't discuss Patsy's husband's health with her but he/she can certainly discuss her health, which is being affected by her husband's behaviour.

[Sqad]

Thanks Patsy for listening to the stories of an old man lol.

Brighton 1959 your Sqad recently qualified and doing a locum fo a bit of money. Very upmarket woman, well dressed, well spoken sat down in the surgery and told me that her husband had bouts of abuse towards her both mentally and occasionally physically and she could stand it no longer.
I listened but hadn't a clue what to do and it was well before the advent of psychotropic drugs.....Largactil was just coming on the market.
I will cut this short as it is an after dinner story.

I went to the flat and had a word with him for an explanation of his wife's concern and he denied them all. He seemed a nice guy and apparently had played cricket for Sussex.

All was swept under the carpet for a few weeks until she returned with the same complaints about him but instead on some action.
Then there was a guy called the DAO Duly Authorised Officer who was not a doctor but had the power with a doctor to enforce a Section 28 which allowed the enforcement of a patient in a Mental Institution against their will.
This was enforced and he was taken away comp.aining and struggling.

Weeks later, I heard that he was released as it became evident that the wife was the abuser and he was the victim.

Thank you for indulging my boring stories and how the management of Mental Disorders have changed,

[anneasquith]

Following on from squads story,. I’m going to ask you a very cheeky question, ignore it if you wish. Does your husband drink alcohol, have access to unprescribed drugs ?

[eleanor2]

I couldn’t live like that Patsy, and the problem is he’s had this for so long without medical intervention. I’m sure the thought of upsetting everything fills you with dread, that first step of asking for help.

[Sqad]

Good point Anne.

[anneasquith]

Thanks sir. Your post reminded me of an incident I came across .

[Smowball]

Sqad - just curious, had you suspected it was the wife at all ??