Care Homes

[jennyjoan]

At the moment my friend is in hospital with all kinds of complications - has been in and out loads of times throughout the years.

However she sent me a text to say that before she is discharged she wants to go into respite for a few weeks before finally going home.

She says that nurses keep telling her she looks good in bed. She is on an oxygen machine 24 hours a day, a mastectomy and so much more. There is a notice at the bottom of her bed and at the head of the bed on a wall - saying that she isn't allowed anything to happen to her right arm (mastectomy side) ie bloods taken, blood pressure etc. Yet every single time she has to tell the nurses not to touch that side.

Anyway if one is to look at the respite place and go only by online reviews - how can one be sure of a "good" place. Thanks

[Redhelen72]

There is a new one near the La Mon crossroads that several friends have used for the elderly relatives

[jennyjoan]

oh thanks - I am unsure of where La Mon is - she does live in Bangor

[Redhelen72]

Just 5 minutes down the road from Roselawn

[jennyjoan]

ok - know it now - thanks. I will let her know by text.

[jennyjoan]

would you know the correct name - as I googled La Mon care home but nothing came up.

[bednobs]

You can't tbh. Even if you had seen It your actual experience might be different

[jennyjoan]

I;m aware of that Bednobs as I have had so many elderly friends ending up in the mires and as they were friends - I would have had no say in the matter.

[Redhelen72]

Maryland Healthcare I believe

[jennyjoan]

ok thank you

[teacake44]

Sadly I see a lot of care homes, not as care homes more like holding pens until such time.... unless of course your budget is endless. My mom is over a 100 years old now, and have kept her well away from such pens, I truly believe that's why she has reached such an age, ( being in her own home) I also believe that is what our great past health minister Mat Hancock thought of them too, just a place to die in.

[roopower]

My mother went into care because she wasn't safe to be at home on her own, even with carers, and she refused to live with either my sister or me. We would both have had her gladly and did take her on holidays and for days out, church etc. Not quite the same as respite as the two places she was in in the 14 years were her homes. In both she was well cared for, particularly the second which was a nursing home, the staff loved her and were nearly as upset as us when she died, aged 93. Not all places are holding pens.

[pixie374]

Of course, they aren't holding pens... I've looked after people of 100-106 plus.
To be sure of a good place, look around them and speak to other people.

[ummmm]

My uncle went into respite for a few weeks for recovery fter spending 3 months in hospital. It was lovely, like a small flat. They had cafe, library, lovely gardens. It was perfect. Then he moved in with me....bless him.

[jennyjoan]

A wee update. My friend has been (have been told via email) bundled up and carted off to this awful place. No shower unit, no wifi for her contact, window looks onto a wall, hardly any nurses, upstairs is a residential area and some of the rooms are flooding - she has said that the plumbers earn more money than doctors - so that speaks for itself. Apparently she has to self isolate but she has emphatically said she won't be staying there. I've sent her an email re the care home that Redhelen mentioned. So maybe good luck for her there. I do hope so.