Worst Mother Daughter Relationship

[Reetareet]

My mother and I are not in a good relationship. My dad left me when I was a child. My mother made me to get married at the age 27. Finally she started forcing me and my husband to change the religion which was very shocking for us. And we denied to change the religion. I belong to India. Recently I got pregnant and conveyed the news to my mother, she was not happy at all. She finally decided to cut the relationship with me and my husband. Now I don't have any emotional support from anyone during my pregnancy. I really feel very depressed. I have PTSD problem also. I use to cry alot thinking that no one is there for me to take care in my first pregnancy now. My husband is very supportive and caring for me. How can I overcome with this stress??

[bookbinder]

This might help:
https://www.nhs.uk/Service-Search/other-services/Relationship%20counselling/LocationSearch/400

[Bobbisox1]

So sad when religion gets in the way of a loving relationship , I hope you can work it out Reetareet

[Mamyalynne]

Build on the loving partnership you have with your Husband and try to widen your group of friends.

Perhaps ask round if there are groups where expectant parents can meet up and chat.

[AuntPG]

You say you have no emotional support yet say your husband is very supportive. He is all you need. Toxic mothers should be cut out of your life completely. She is not worth all the stress this is causing you. Try and meet some new mothers, make some new friends, but be thankful you have a loving and supportive husband.

[Redhelen72]

Yes cut her out totally and don’t use her as a babysitter when the baby comes along or you are as bad as she is and the child gets caught in the middle.

[AuntPG]

I gave my toxic mother a second chance as I felt sorry for her -the manipulative beech came back even worse. You really can survive without a mother, they are not all saints and you will feel much better in yourself to let her go (to hell).

[Sqad]

What AuntPG/redhelen said.^^^^^

[AuntPG]

Sqad...AuntPG AND Redhelen not what you put! you will set the resident psycho off again lol!

[david small]

My wife hated and feared her mother her whole life. Her treatment as a child scarred her mentally until late in life.
You have a good husband that’s all you need for emotional support. Let this toxic, bitter woman feed upon her own bile. You don’t need her negativity.
Break free, you are stronger than you think.

[Mamyalynne]

I left Mother out of my reply as she has estranged herself already.

[Barsel]

I find it interesting when you said //My dad left me when I was a child//
Is this what you think or could it be possible he left your mum and your mum may not have told you the truth about that?
Would it be possible to trace your dad and find out what happened and possibly turn to him for support.
What about your in laws, do you get support from either of them?
I hope you will soon find friends, perhaps at the anti-natal clinic and that you can find the support you need.

[roopower]

Being pregnant and having a baby are ideal times to make friendships and find support. I'm not sure whether antenatal and post natal groups are allowed yet but if you do see other parents start o conversation. Look for a mother and baby group to go to, ask at your dictors for help. It's so good that you have a supportive husband, make sure you let him know that you appreciate him.