Feeling Angry, Frustrated And Not In Control

[tiggerblue10]

Little Tigs has been picked and bullied for a while now and no matter what I say to the SENCO, his mentor tutor or head of year the bullying continues. There are a number of children who keep harassing him both verbally and sometimes physically like stepping on his shoes. He started out really well in school with all his subjects but has gone progressively downhill as I feel it's affecting his mental health. He doesn't have any friends and the girl he was friends with isn't talking to him anymore.

I'm going to have to speak to the head this time to see what can be done but I'm just so upset and angry with all the children who are nasty to him. What is wrong with them?? I hate bullies! I wish they would crawl under a stone...

[calmck]

My grandson had the same. One girl in a class with 9 boys. If Leo played with a boy she didn't like she would un friend him and tell the other boys not to play with him. Head sorted it by calling girls mother in to watch what went on in playground. Hasn't happened since. But school is small private one

[Bobbisox1]

Arh Tiggs reading this I feel so angry too, bullying is the worst thing ever, hopefully remove the ‘leader’ and the rest will fall into line , you must tell the head teacher if something isn’t done you higher to the board of Governors to tell them bullying is going on and you won’t tolerate it , good luck

[Bobbisox1]

* will go*

[tiggerblue10]

Today he told me that one of the girl bullies told him he should never have been born! Nasty little.........!

[Peter Pedant]

// If Leo played with a boy she didn't like she would un friend him and tell the other boys not to play with him.//

oh a bit like the playground in AB then

BUT - - - I am sorry this has occurred and sad poor Leo is getting Hell. I look on my days at school with no great affection

[Bobbisox1]

Ask him gently,who he thinks ‘they take notice of’? amongst the perpetrators and it might be worth asking for a meeting at school with that nasty little madams mother x

[tiggerblue10]

I will be contacting the head about this and also thinking of getting a reassessment of his autism and ADHD. Need a referral from GP.

[sandra4444]

I'm afraid bullying at school, especially stepping on each others shoes is something that's gone on years. Unless the physical side of it gets really serious, its part of growing up, and learning to fend for yourself.

[Giggsie]

Big big problems in schools just now about bullying it needs o be sorted. Parents of young boy that took his own life we’re on the news this morning. Shocking what was happening to him. Lots of it on social media to as was happening to him. There is going to be a program on tv about it can’t remember when they said it would be on.

[roopower]

Have a word with the head, if you don't get satisfaction from that go to the school's governors.

[tiggerblue10]

OMG that's awful, Giggsie! I've heard about cases like this a few times now.

How do you stop bullies doing what they do though? They had anti-bullying week not so long ago but it still continues. I've told him to ignore these idiots and maybe they will leave him alone but that obviously hasn't worked.

[THECORBYLOON]

I would think there should a record of the various contacts with the staff so when you arrange a meeting with the head, ask to see what records were kept, check their versions of what was discussed, what they telt you would be done and what actions, if any, were actually taken following them.

[bednobs]

giggsie, that boy didnt take his own life, his murder was planned thru SM!
i'm in complete disagreement with sandra on this. it's not right to say its all a part of growing up and you have to fend for yourself

[hellywelly4]

Don’t know if this will help but when it happened to my grandson my daughter went round and told the bully’s parents and it did stop.

[jennyjoan]

I disagree with Sandra4444 too - no it's not part of growing up. I had lots of problems and went to a mainstream school - not once in 5 years was I bullied - I wouldn't have known the name - bully.

something needs to be done - I'm not a mother but something in me would do "something".

[Ringlet]

That's awful and particularly so as he has autism and ADHD.
Children are such little savages when they spot an individual who is a little bit different.
School should be more pro-active, I think. My experience with my own children and with grandchildren is that the more "pushy" the parent is, the faster and more efficiently the school will react.
Threaten to expose the school for not adhering to their anti bullying policy (all schools have them these days). Emphasise your child's autism and ADHD issues, and stress to the teachers that your child is classed as vulnerable, yet he is being made to suffer on their watch.
It's not good enough. school need to be made to take notice and to take action.

[annie0000]

Honestly, I'd move him if you can or remove him from school until they can provide a safe environment for him somewhere else.

It doesn't stop, it might get better sometimes and then worse again and in the meantime it has a devastating affect on his self esteem and mental health.

I have no idea how in this day and age there is still no effective solution to bullying within schools.

[Ken4155]

Young lass (14) round our way apparently committed suicide yesterday because she was being bullied. I don't know any more detail than that so i can't elaborate as to what sort of bullying took place but i do know she had recently 'come out' as a lesbian? Whether that had anythng to do with the bullying, time will tell.

[tiggerblue10]

He seemed quite happy when I picked him from school today. And there were a few kids that told another kid who was geing horrible to leave him alone.

That is heartbreaking, Ken. Another family destroyed by bullies.

[Arksided]

Hi Tiger, I have being following about young Tiger, I've being a bit lost for words to be honest, about the school and everything. A bit of a result some other kid sticking up for him.

I have no answers but you both have my loving full support however this moves forward. All the best to you both as always Xx