Parent Wedding Present Query

[Prudie]

There is no right or wrong answer to this, I would just be interested in what others did or would do in these circumstances.
Only daughter is getting married. The couple have arranged all the wedding themselves and made their personal choices for the whole thing within their budget. Parents have given them money towards it, let's say a few thousand. Would you expect the parents to also give an actual tangible wedding present as well?

[naomi24]

Perhaps a little token memento of the day - but otherwise no.

[Canary42]

Certainly a token one, but how tangible depends on them.

[Prudie]

By tangible I mean an actual gift - they have a present list for example.

[Neveracrossword]

Until I had children who got married, I would have said 'no' - but when my three got married, it felt odd to have gifts from everyone else bar us! We didn't go crazy - one got a rug(chosen by them), one got a framed print (ditto) and the third got a fancy coffee machine.

[naomi24]

Perhaps the token memento could be something from their list.

[Redhelen72]

I would suggest that only a token gift was given.
My parents paid for our reception meal and gave us a lovely set of crystal whisky glasses

[Canary42]

OK, then in that case a token one of their choice, possibly from the list if practical within their determined budget. But you're right about no right or wrong answer - my answer reflects what I would do had I been lucky enough to have had any offspring.

[bednobs]

My parents paid for a small wedding breakfast, plus also gave us a gift

[Vagus]

No, unless you wanted to.
My parents paid for our small reception, and gave us a bit of money as we left and set off on our very cheap three day honeymoon, no other present.
His father didn’t contribute anything at all and didn’t give us a wedding present or money.
I think just giving them money is fine.

[rowanwitch]

It depends what the other parents are doing. It might be a bit awkward if they buy a big present as well as helping with the costs. I would probably go with something that is likely to be kept, a vase maybe or a photo frame

[Patsy33]

Personally, I would, but that's just me. :-)

[TheChair]

Nope

[Bazile]

We paid for the church and limousines

[Tilly2]

Something small but beautiful, as a keepsake.

[MissTerious2]

We've never given wedding presents from a list! Definitely a token wedding present. Not something useful though. The parents should be aware of whst please the daughter and her tastes. A forever present!

[elliemay1]

I would give a lovely photo frame engraved with their names and date of wedding

[Sqad]

NO!

[Vagus]

I actually wouldn’t thank anyone for giving me ‘things’, I don’t like ‘things’ particularly if someone else has chosen them.

[MissTerious2]

I like 'things' from people who know what I like. That's why a live in a cluttered house !
My son and wife did the same as we did. A low profile marriage in a registry office and a party in the evening. No cars, flowers, photos,etc or reception. Just a party in the evening. We provided a buffet. They requested no presents, but any donations towards their holiday in Italy would be welcome. They had been living together for five years.

[choux]

A difficult one to call, not knowing the family nor their circumstances, e.g. the amount given in £s in proportion to income/savings, or the expectation of their daughter. I think I would say "no" though. After all, the couple are better off than before the parents made their contribution.