Is Maintaining A Stiff Upper Lip Healthier?

[naomi24]

The commonly-held belief that attempting to suppress negative thoughts is bad for our mental health could be wrong, a new study from scientists at the University of Cambridge suggests.

 

https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/suppressing-negative-thoughts-may-be-good-for-mental-health-after-all-study-suggests

 

Well?

[anneasquith]

Cruse, bereavement support, on line. 

[ladybirder]

She could have been from Cruse for all I know.

[pastafreak]

If she was from Cruise, then I'd imagine she was going against all their principles.

Cruise helped me when I lost both my mum and sister in 1992. The only thing I'd have changed would to be to have asked for a female instead of male counsellor. I think I'd have opened up more.

[anneasquith]

Pasta, I'd think now you would have the option to choose .

[Peter Pedant]

Cruse has been 'written up'

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cpp.2113

looked at 350 patients ( better if it were 350 consecutive) and found OK in severe gried disturbance and toss-of-a-coin if less - moderate but not crippling.

My brother was stuck in anger/denial for around 2 y and then suddenly got over it within about a month

[Barsel]

Ken @ 10.45 //Couldn't find an appropriate emoji//

Thank God for that!

[andy-hughes]

Often, simply being able to talk your feelings through is really helpful.

Left in your mind, your thoughts run around in circles, but if you speak them out loud, you get a sense of perspective, and it can often help you to find a solution to your issue(s).

This is the founding principle of The Samaritans.

Founder Chad Varah was a vicar who offered a chat to anyone needing it.

When the demand grew, he arranged for a couple of lcoal ladies to make tea in the waiting room for people waiting to see him.

He found that, often, by the time the person got to him, they had enjoyed a chat with the tea lady, and felt much better, and no longer needed to see him.

From this simply concept, that someone simply listening, without offering advice or 'solutions' was a valuable commodity, and the Samaritans was born.

It's not something that works for everyone, but it is a hugely valuable service to people who need to have a chat with a non-judgemental stranger.

[Atheist]

Sorry, Naomi; too many non-negatives for me to be unable to fail to get my head round, or not.