Is it cheating?

[Eurox]

Is it cheating if your girlfriend kisses a girl? Mine did this at a party on Friday night and I'm quite upset. What does anyone else think about this?

[littlemissx]

i personally wouldnt count it as cheating providing she doesnt bat for the other team... if its just joking etc i wouldnt worry but if it was with genuine feelings then i dont think i would like it if i was a guy

[AliFlump]

If i'd done that i would feel bad like i had cheated. In my opinion if your with someone any form of kissing another person is cheating. Have you spoke to her about it?

[Drusilla]

I was married and have two children. It was a kiss with another woman that made me realise where my true affections lay. On the other hand, I suspect your girlfiend was merely having a laugh and getting caught up in the party atmosphere. Let it go this time and enjoy your time together without dwelling on one silly incident. You could ens up destroying the relationship unnecessarily.
Best wishes.

[Drusilla]

Of course, kissing girls plays havoc with your spelling. It should read end, not ens.

[{Dakota}]

I'm with the majority here in that it was probably a laugh and she was caught up in the party atmosphere. If she was going out every weekend and kissing anyone - no matter what the sex - I think you'd have something to worry about.

I can, however, understand where you're coming from. I know that if my boyfriend kissed another guy I'd feel pretty upset about it, even if itwas just a spur of the moment thing.

You need to talk to your girlfriend really, don't bottle up how you are feeling about it, talk then move on.

[Englishbird]

Was it in the middle of the party being jeered on by people or was it upstairs behind a closed door? My ex boyfriend kissed another man once, and I was absolutely livid. He said it was a joke and couldn't understand why I was upset. I think you have every right to be upset and I think she should acknowledge that.

[lb24]

You have every right to be upset. Kissing anyone is cheating and any cheating is a dumpable offence. If she'll cheat on you with girls, what's to stop her doing it with blokes aswell. If she can't stay faithful to you, you should find someone who will be coz you're obviously a nice bloke who wouldn't do the same to her.

[jno]

I don't know what sex you are yourself Eurox, and I don't suppose it matters. It depends on what sort of kiss, as other people have said. Public, party kisses have different meanings from private, passionate ones. But it's not surprising that you're unsettled. I think you should tell her so and ask what her feelings were, and are, for the other girl.

[Lonnie]

Having read all the above posts, I have to agree with jno's most, definately have a word,

[Eurox]

I am indeed male. I am worried anout this because I myself wasnt there to see actually whether it was a spur of the moment thing or whether it was an actually thing. The thing that worries me the most though, is that we've been going through a bad patch lately and I'm just wondering if she's saying it was a girl to cover up the fact it was actually a bloke.

[lb24]

Do you know anyone else who was at the party who you could ask?

[Eurox]

The only other person really is the girl she got off with! So i dont know whether she will have said to her to say that she did kiss her as an alibi or whether she won't say anythin because its her mate.

[Englishbird]

Sorry Eurox, but it definitely sounds dodgy to me. If you can get past this indiscretion, whether it was with a bloke or a girl (which is becoming less important now), I think you need a frank conversation with her as to where your relationship is going and what you both expect out of it .. i.e. you don't expect her to go kissing anybody else. If you want it to continue then you both have to put some work in. If you decide it's not worth it then walk away. Good luck x

[lilyfrog]

The crux of it is the kiss upsets you, therefor she shouldn't have done it. However as many men enjoy the sight of two women kissing and may even positivley encourage it (if they can watch) she could be forgiven for not realising this upsets you. Explain that you are not happy woth her kissing anyone but you and those are the boundaries she has to accept in the future. Then let it go.

[chongalolo]

I'm curious to know how you found out about this kiss. Did your girlfriend tell you herself? This could have a bearing on your response to her actions...

[Eurox]

Yes she said herself. But this was after I questioned her about a lad she admitted flirting with.

[LordyGeordie]

Personally, if i found out my girlfriend was bit half-rice, half-chips i'd be delighted.

i would use this to my advantage to see if i could get a bit of a menage-a-trois going. but that's just me.

[jipsquithesq]

it would be if you were a girl too, surely.

If your a man no, but kiss a bloke and see how she likes it...

...this may backfire, in so many ways.

;)

[BetsyLou]

A lot of my female friends go through phases of snogging other girls. But only when drunk and only so that they become the centre of attention. It's pretty childish, a bit pathetic, and totally exhibitionist, but as far as their relationships with their boyfriends go, it doesn't mean anything.

My boyfriend has said to me that he would consider it cheating, but i know that, and therefore wouldn't do it (well, i wouldn't anyway, because i don't think i'll die if i haven't got the attention of every man in the room, but that's not the point..). If your girlfriend didn't think this would bother you, i think you should give her a second chance - unless your relationship's knackered anyway!

[Goodsoulette]

my hubby would count it as cheating if he didnt know about it, there is nothing he likes more than to watch me do this,(apart from going further that is).