Would It Be A Bad Thing If I Messaged A Guy First On Pof?

[abbeylee90]

I'm not use to messaging guys first but like what I see.

[douglas9401]

Yes, a thousand times yes.

[DDIL]

Yes and offer to pay for a change

[abbeylee90]

We haven't arranged a date.

[calmck]

Abbey  Why not do what you want and then tell us how it went. Make a change

[smurfchops]

Here we go again

[jourdain2]

You sound predatory - I wouldn't do it, even if I knew what Pof is, which I don't.  We're very probably the wrong site to ask.

[Neveracrossword]

Jourdain, Pof stands for Plenty of Fish, a dating site/app. I think you can browse through a 'catalogue' of available people, interested in dating.... Abbey has been using it, with not much success, for quite a while.

[jourdain2]

Thank you  Neveracrossword.  It helps.

[Buenchico]

^^^ 'Pof' is, presumably, . . .
https://www.pof.com/

There's not much point in signing up for a dating site unless you use it to find dates!  Go for it!

[newmodarmy]

Yes.

[newmodarmy]

Sorry, just to clarify.

Yes you should contact him.

No it wouldn't be a bad thing 

You've had 2 threads called 'would it be a bad thing...'. That reminded me of a poster (cindy?) who has gone quiet recently.

[smurfchops]

Are Abby and Cindy the same person?  I had thought that in the past...

[QuizmasterG]

Are you a grown up or a child?

People can't hold your hand every time you have a dilemma.

 

[curlyfries81]

If you do message him, proof read it before you send it. If it doesn't make sense he probably won't be interested.

You know, for someone your age, you really should be able to make decisions on basic things without running everything past others.

[douglas9401]

I doubt sentence construction is uppermost in the mind of predator or prey.

Just get on with it.

[Clementino]

I hope you have read his profile thoroughly and notice any ' red flags '. Be careful what you are wearing in your own profile....that will give him a clue as to what you are thinking

[davebro3]

is it me?

[Prudie]

It might be for him if he's looking for an intelligent woman he can converse with and maybe form a proper relationship with  but if it's basically a physical hookup then go for it if that's what you're looking for. 

[Clementino]

Dave, I suspect Abbey wears  one of her raunchy outfits anyway .... not what she wears to walk the dogs ...different outfits reflect lifestyle and interests 

[naomi24]

Abbey, I know you'd like a proper boyfriend and I think your profile picture is a good point.  If you're wearing one if your raunchy outfits post a different picture.  Otherwise you're giving the wrong impression and therefore attracting men who aren't interested in a long term relationship.