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Should I continue our friendship?
A girl at work started inviting herself to my local pub when she knew I'd be there. I asked her to sit with us and she's been coming out every week since. She has told me how much she fancies my husband and is always making improper suggestions. She has now started rumours around the work place that my husband has returned these suggestions to her and has been making suggestive comments. I know this is not true. Should I cut all ties with her?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.She doesn't need to be anything special for some men to 'have a go' just a sl*t. Keep well away from her, and as long as you have faith in your husband it'll be fine.
Of course if I was being vindictive.... you could have a very quiet word in a few ears and ensure that she does not feel comfortable at work and you never know your luck, she might leave completely. Only you know how far you want to take it.
Certainly cut all ties with her, and abruptly. Do not associate with a dangerous person like that!
What does your husband think of this? Is he aware that she fancies him?
Do all three of you work in the same place, or just you and this woman? I might think about talking to the supervisor if I were you....
I totally agree with Rampart, do not engage in any conversation or texting with her. From what you've told us, she sounds unhinged (a word I seem to be using a lot today) and as such is dangerous. again as Rampart says, make sure you have a witness if there is any conversation.
Don't however feel bullied or intimidated by her. You do not need to make excuses, you can be straight with her if she approaches you. Just remain calm and rational and she'll show herself up for the idiot that she is.
If you tell a supervisor about this now, if she takes it further you have some back up if she ever trys to make things difficult for you.
I agree with curly sue. Make an official complaint at work to register this matter, officially. She does sound slightl;y unhinged and I think the quicker you make your bosses aware of the potential conflict here, the better.
On a personal level, ask your friends to tell her she is no longer welcome in your group and avoid talking to her whenever possible.