Male masturbation and relationships

[zeldaisis]

Me and my boyfriend have a very active sex life. I prefer he not masturbate. He says he doesn't. But I am reading so many articles bout how the man does masturbate and the woman doesn't know. Maybe some men really don't while with someone. Did I find honest one? Should I believe him?

[rosieo]

Ah, give the guy a break! What harm would it do if he did? Would you rather him have an affair with an actual person rather than his hand? I have never asked my husband whether he does or not because quite honestly I think that there are more important things in life to worry about. Im sorry if I sound harsh.x

[andy-hughes]

This type of question does pop up from time to time, and it does underline one of the fundamental differences between men and women.

A lot of women imagine that if their man masturbates, it;s because they don't satisfy him enough, or he is 'looking elsewhere' for pleasure, but trust me, men do not see sex and masturbation in this way.

Masturbation is fun, and it has no pressure. If he is a considerate lover, he will be involved in your responses, ands giving you pleasure, wheras when he masturbtaes, he has no-one to please but himself, and it is simply a different form of sexual enjoyment, bot better, or worse than sex with you, just different.

Think of it like this - your man is perfectly happy with the BMW7 series of pleasures in his sex life with you, but sometimes, he doesn't mind a quick race around the track in a Formula One. Faster, headier, and fun, but not as comfortable, or sartisfying, or long-lasting as the BMW side of his life, but it's fun, and does no harm to anyone.

Look at it like that, and you'll see that your man is just enjoying himself - literally, and it does no harm at all to your relationship, and it is nothing for you to be isecure about.

[dancealot13]

Hunny, why in the world does it bother you? It doesn't mean that he likes another women. I must be honest, if my boyfriend told me I could no longer masturbate I would laugh at the idea. And I don't mean this harshly at all. Masturbation is healthy for so many reasons. It's fun, relaxing, and you get to play with your imagination. There are things you can think about but would never actually do in real life. Its a release. Maybe if you tried joining him when he wants to, that might make you look at it differently and you may even get pleasure from it. If he does still masturbate, but he's been telling you he hasnt, don't be upset with him, and please don't think of him as dishonest. Masturbation is just a part of life for some people. But doesn't it make you feel sexy that he most definetly thinks of you and gets pleasure from thinking about you when you're not even there?

When me and my boyfriend make love we often will say to oneanother after.."Well that gives me something to think about untill the next time we can make love." Because I don't live with him, it brings me pleasure untill I see him next. cheers

[Jennykins]

Hahaha Oh Dear....

[kazminx]

this is a very naive question..i assume you are quite young. to be honest, what your boyfriend does with his own body in his own time is non of your business..not being cheeky, but its true. dont pressure the poor guy. i get off on the idea that my hubby does it.....i leave some tasters lying around to help him...like a pair of pants sprayed with my perfume....he feels the same when i tell him (usually in a text) that im doing the same..its a real turn on and men absolutely LOVE IT!!

[jason1980]

Hi, I just found this post. I am a man (26) and I will tell you that mens bodies produce sperm & womens bodies produce eggs. When the eggs aren't fertalised a womans body naturally releases it - for a man, nature intended to give us high sex drives, and it is because of this we masturbate to release our sperm. Masturbation isn't just something you do cos you're single. Would you rather he masturbated or slept around. It's natural, normal, healthy and you should encourage him to be honest about his masturbation habbits, then you'll know why he does it cos he's been doing it since he was 13 at least....

[elsie470]

I have a boyfriend who says he doesn't ever masturbate! even in the the 9 months between me and his previous girlfriend! could this possibly be true? I think masturbation is healthy for both sexes and find it almost a problem that he doesn't, he also doesn't bring it into our sexual encounters which is a shame as I find it totally exciting. anyone any ideas on this??

[Skreecheeboy]

Masturbating in a relationship is pointless. What a wakner!