Sixteen Year Old Boys

[smurfchops]

Why do so many boys, and girls too I suppose, when they reach 13 to 16, get that worried look like they have the world on their shoulders, and can't even raise a smile let alone say Hello? You just seem to get a grunt instead of a word. What have they got to be so miserable about? [edited by AB] or do they grow out of it?

[B00]

You never watched Harry Enfield? I always thought their sketches of Kevin and Perry were an exaggeration until my own daughter reached the terrible teens.........

[smurfchops]

Do they grow out of it .. and when ? And do you mean ALL of them grow out of it ?? I seriously think there is a problem within the brain ..

[B00]

Well my eldest is 17, 18 in August and sadly there's no signs of normality yet judiewudie............sorry! lol

[Greedyfly]

One word - Hormones

[Greedyfly]

I grew out of it at about 17 lol

[Robinia]

My youngest son went through a phase where his favourite & almost only word was 'shudup' especially when his older brother spoke to him. One day they were arguing - well older one was shouting in sentences - interrupted by constant shudup from the younger. Finally younger one comes out with a whole sentence & then promptly shouted SHUDUP at himself......brilliant.

They do grow out of it...

[kobe]

Hi Greedyflt is right its hormones

Basically when a teenager starts developing they grow at such a rate and have such a surge of hormones that they seriously don't know weather they are coming or going they literally outgrow their brians for a while hence the mumbo jumbo that comes out of their mouths - their bodies develop and their brain has to catch up - it makes them very tired "I want to sleep til lunch time" and yes irritable "and the whole world stinks syndrome" - they have the added pressures of school exams finding out who they are and what they will become as a "proper grown up"they discover "feelings" and the opposite sex their hormones are "willing" them to try new things like possibly staying out till the early hours because something inside tells them they can ( cos they're grown up ) and find loud music a pleasure because oldies don't understand it (little do they know we have all been there) (how long has Glastonebury been going) the worse thing us real grown ups can do - and do do, is shout at them to well - GROW UP!!!

Have a bit of paitence so long as they are not down right rude they are trying to grow up honest - and yes they will

Next time you see them with their friends or class mates notice the wide difference in their height and build I bet if you speak to the Parents for the tall lad you'll find they are going through one hell of a time - Try to remember these children will soon be managing our businesses, be on our tvs and running our parliament - and childhood passes so quickly

[ronnie963]

my eldist son has just turned 12 and this is him his face is never smiling he looks like he's got the weight of the world on his shoulders when i say is there anything wrong i just get a big fat NO. Oh well here it comes i guess (TT) terrible teens

[whiskeysheri]

Hi judiewudie, I'm 21 and only really grew out of it last year. It really does feel like you've got the weight of the world on your shoulders, there's not a lot you can say to make it better either. I'm lovely now though, my mum tells me x

[whiskeysheri]

Oops, I'm a girl x

[Scarlett]

I teach 16 year old boys. It is just hormones, simple as that. They feel like they are misunderstood and the LAST thing they want to do is look at/converse with/be confronted by an adult. Hence staying in their rooms, sleeping late, only wanting to be with their friends. It will pass, honestly.

[smurfchops]

Thanks everyone, I won't hold my breath ... x

[clair_witch]

Oh tell me about it. My eldest is 15, just started her periods and is a nightmare. she's always bored, but doesn't want to do anything. Tired, but doesn't want to sleep at bedtime. Hungry, but doesn't know what to eat.Everything is sick, disgusting and she likes very few people. My big sis has promised me she'll grow out of it (thankfully) but by the I'll have the youngest going through it too. Teenagers are hard work!

[crispynugget]

This may be a biased type answer but I am 15 years of age and have never grunted, sworn or shouted at my parents. A high level of respect is expected of me and i wish to remain in their good books. The less I shout then the less they need to shout.

My mother supports our family as my parents are divorced. The high level of responsibility and stress caused by her job( bed and breakfast) and the fact that i have looked after my younger sister from an early age may be responsible for my strangely different character when i compare myself with friends, of whom never discuss matters with parents and I am usually shocked when they swear at them and shout at them.

I do not want to seem perfect as i am not. Like my friends I swear regularly and sometimes at uneeded times and I also act immaturely around them but when around responsible adults I can conrol myself (sound and mind).

End of rant and thanks judywudie for your lovely comment on my question about love the other day.