dont feel like it

[stylinsam]

is this strange but sometimes my bf is all up for sex but i dont feel like it. dont get me wrong i love him to bits and i love getting jiggy with him but sometimes i just feel to exhusted to do anything as i go to work all day. but the thing is he works from 7 in the morning to 7 at night and still wants it am i being weirdx

[stylinsam]

sorry i meant am i being selfishx

[Dipster]

I wouldn't say you were weird, just honest! Everyone gets tired at some point and just isn't in the mood for sex, it's good that you can tell him rather than go along with it when you'd rather not.

Just discovered AB, seems good!

[stylinsam]

dipster im a regular here discovered it a few months ago it keeps my day going especially when i need a break from work thanks for the answerx

[CLOWN TICKLE]

Hey my wife is often not up for it but if you love each other you accept it, least thats my feeling

[lampcfc]

my wifes the same clown but when it happens wow .your not weird stylinsam just normal

[jno]

extremely normal. Actually, women are famous for wanting it less than men (sometimes known as 'Not tonight, I have a headache'), but I have no idea if there are any statistics bearing this out. An understanding boyfriend should be able to accept this.

[Richie1976]

Maybe you just have to be wooed more a little, sometimes. Not sure on women wanting it less than blokes, I'm kind of seeing two women at the moment and both seem to want it all the time (if any of you two read this, this is not a complaint and should not be taken as one).

[stylinsam]

your seeing 2 women thats a bit naughtyxxxxlol

[Richie1976]

Sssshhhhhh!

[peterd]

Would you not feel more weird if he didn't want it? I think you should take it as a compliment

[lampcfc]

your secrets out now rich.you must be to afford them both

[malaise]

Hi stylinsam . This will probably sound weird, but if you think about sex more regularly (watch pornos, read some erotic fiction - and I'm not suggesting any of that Black Lace rubbish!) you'll find that you're more in the mood for it. It works for me =) And also, having an orgasm is a great way to de-stress and have a peaceful nights' sleep, so you'll be more refreshed in the morning!

[lainiej]

Richie has the right idea. My hubby seems to think he can bash away on his laptop all evening and then I'll click into action once in bed. Therefore we dont do it very often. I very rarely feel like it but not sure if it relates to him or anyone. We arent machines that can be turned on and off. Us girls like to feel like we're adored so come on fellas, WOO US !!!

[stylinsam]

so im normal thanks for the posts

[redcrx]

Loss of Libido can also be caused by the combined pill. Some brands have this as a side effect. Always makes me laugh cos you go on pill so you can have sex 'anytime anyplace' so to speak but then the pill means that you really cant be bothered. Ive given up with it now

[alijangra]

My boyfriend works away half the time so I grab every chance I can get with him!!! We are just as passionate now as we were wheb we met 5 years ago, if not more so. I work 12 hour shifts but still find the energy as I feel its not fair on him if I dont.

[Jennykins]

Hey stylinsam.. I dont have sex with my partner endless I want to.. and no its not selfish because Im not going to lay there and pretend im loving it ... giving my body to him and then having to fake a orgasim... And my man knows that about me.. when Im having sex its because Im really into it and Im loving it... and he loves that about me... Of course they wish you would do it alllllllll the time.. but not everybody wants to... Sex is something very special and should not just be givin to make somebody else happy... If your tired.. get some time off and go sex your brains out! lol good luck and dont put so much presure on your self...