is anyone else feeling lonely?

[Salamanda]

Why do we feel the need for companionship? Everyone around me seems to be half of a couple but me.......makes me feel lonely.

[helsbels666]

Salamanda! You have the world at your feet! No ties, no dirty washing, no muddy footprints, no irritating remarks!

[Salamanda]

No way, I like being with someone...I dont think I have been single this long before. thanks for the\optimism anyway helsbels666

[chimpydoodle]

i'm newly single after 5 years and feel like i'm missing a limb without him! i sympathise Sala!

[Minxie]

When I go out, I notice everyone seems to be with someone else. Never noticed it when I was with my ex partner. So yes, Salamanda, does make me feel a bit lonesome too.

[Roughquest]

Dear Salamanda,

I too have been single far too long, and feel like a spare part! I hate not being able to love someone and hold someone, and for it to be reciprocated....everyone i know is attached in one way or another, its not fair....not a day goes by when someone asks "Why on earth are you single" cos apparently Im a looker lol.

It really gets my goat.

RQ xx

[Minxie]

Yes, know that feeling RQ. Everyone I know is with someone else. Having a social life is near impossible. Maybe we should set up a singles site on here :)

[spk]

the grass is greener on the other side but there is poo in that field too. I know its tough Im single too but try and enjoy being in your own company. You will be part of a couple when the time is right and will sometimes wish you enjoyed being on your own a bit more. Good luck and chin up x

[Bowieblue]

Yes, I feel very lonely after relationship ended last December. I'm ok for a while then have a bad week. Bank holidays and weekends are still strange. I keep busy but forever have this lost empty longing inside. Trying to make a new start is hard - there is no other option but to keep trying. There are only certain places I feel happy going to on my own and never anywhere in the evening.

I have jointed a dating website but haven't approached anyone yet - too scared. Although I have actually seen someone on the site that I recognise and have sent them a 'how are you' message. They haven't read my message yet after two weeks. I can contact them on my work email - do you think I should? or is it too cheeky. Apart from that feel pretty flat at the moment too!

[willowhobson]

I seem to be surrounded by people getting married and having babies at the moment and I do have moments when it just gets too hard to feel happy for them... but I know that my turn will come eventually (as will yours), it just hasn't arrived yet!

Am planning to move to another city in the summer,so that is helping me to justify my single-ness and there are times when I do things that I couldn't have done when I was in my last relationship and I'm actually glad top be single, but I totally know how you feel.

It's a shame that Single's events are all just aimed at setting people in up in couples... sometimes you just want to go out and have a laugh with other people who are single too.

[WendyS]

We all need companionship, but sometimes individuals can feel lonely if they're part of a couple too if all's not well with the relationship. Even couples need some personal space if they are to thrive so being alone should not be thoght of as some kind of social inadequacy. . I think the secret, if you have to live on your own for a while, is to develop hobbies and interests which can be indulged in on your own - walking, reading, gardening, gym, going to an evening class to learn a new language, becoming a voluntary visitor at a local residental home, doing jigsaws, owning a pet etc. In some of these activities you will meet other people, some possibly in the same situation as yourself and who knows what new friendships might result?

[loopyc]

im in a couple still feel lonely and wish i single .

[squiperly]

I've been in both places - and I think on reflection that being lonely in a couple is far worse than being lonely alone. When you're alone you can think about the day when you meet your ideal partner, the things you'll do, the people you'll meet. Being in a twosome can be just "get me out, get me out . . ." And believe me, the freedom afterwards feels WONDERFUL! If only I could find that perfect man who completely understands me . . . and if he was a lottery winner, so much the better! lol