Newly single

[jibjab]

24 male, newly single and not a clue what to do from here....

I am not boasting but I am a good looking guy, but when im single for some reason i never get much attention.

I am on myspace, faceparty and all the other saddo picture sites around lol ANDS I STILL CANT MEET WOMEN!!

when i go out i usually end up just chatting with mates and if i do talk to any women aim so drunk that i make a fool of myself :(

I just want to know if anybody has any suggestions, before i got into a relationship, i had always wanted to do the one night stand thing for a few years but realised girls thought i was TOO NICE for that sort of thing, even tho thats what i really wanted !!!!!

as i say i am good looking, but seem to have the nice guy tag and that doesnt seem to turn girls legs to jelly!!!

[Poglet]

is that you tom?

[Rubyrose]

The nice guy tag? Hmmm! Sounds to me like you are a bit of an arse! No offence.. you seem to be blwoing your own trumpet and admit you want to do a couple of years of one night stands! Girls... where do we think he is going wrong? Pffft.. Lol

[Rubyrose]

Blowing*

Lmao @ Poglet

[Champagne]

Nothing wrong with wanting to have a break and have flings instead of relationships, so long as you don't let the girl think that you want more.

Stop being 'Mr. Nice'. It�s the confident men who get the girls. And if you�re good looking then that�s an added bonus. Next time you�re out, get mixing with the girlies and make them laugh. When you have their dedicated attention THEN you can make your move. Don�t take rejections personally either. Just move on to the next one!

[peterd]

Why do girls think you are too nice for a one nighter ? I've never heard of that before. Looks aren't everything & personality goes a long way.

[Rubyrose]

Nothing wrong with wanting a bit of fun at all but you should do it coz you want to.. and not for revenge! So what if your ex calls and tells you what she is up to? Tell her to f*ck off. The likely hood is that she isn't doing it as much as you think, coz she is telling you about it. If she was not contacting you at all.. then you would be more worried coz its likely she is off having fun!!

By all means go out and have fun... at the end of the day.. you can't be anything but yourself.

[Rubyrose]

I'm agreeing with Peter alot too. If I met a guy and he was really nice and sweet I'd have a one night stand with him. Its the @rseholes that you don't want the one nighters with! It doesn't make sense!

[helliebobs]

no offence jibjab but it sounds to me like you're trying too hard! Just relax and be yourself and it'll happen. Coming across as desperate isn't attractive for either sex so just let it happen naturally!

[B00]

Well you said yourself that you're either talking to your mates or too trollied to even hold a converation with the women (we're weird like that!)

I've never thought meeting a possible date worked in pubs and clubs anyway.

Try to relax, it'll happen without you trying at all. What's your MySpace URL? (what? nowt wrong with looking is there????)

[Rubyrose]

Lmao @ Boo.

Thats what I mean though. Girls don't like being chatted up by annoying drunk guys. Nothing worse.

[Champagne]

I don't agree with you Rubes. I've had one night stands with arrogant good-looking men before. If he's sexy and rugged that that can be a turn-on. But it has depended on my mood at the time. Usually I go for men who are sharp-witted, fairly good looking with a nice body, but rarely the 'nice' ones. After all, one-night stands are about the $ex, right?

[sp1814]

JibJab

My only word ovf advice is never chat up women. Just chat to them. Don't act interested in what they're say, be interested in what they're saying.

Also, try not to hunt in packs with your mates. Women don't want to be seen as antelopes being picked off by lions.

Also, if she's wearing new shoes, compliment them.

I believe that always goes down well.

[B00]

Compliment her shoes??? Oh c'mon, we'd think he was gay!

[Rubyrose]

To be honest Champs.. the only one nigth stand Ive had.. turned into a 5yr relationship! Lol. But I have been chatted up by guys many many times and if they come across as a bit of an @rse then I lose interest rapidly.. But I don't mind abit of cockyness.. ;o).. But I have never gone out looking for a one night stand so I dont know!

[Rubyrose]

I thought the same thing Boo. If a guy told me I had nice shoes I'd wonder if he was after me or he wanted to try them on.. haha

[Champagne]

ROFL @ BOO!!! I've been complimented by men on my outfit and I like it. But only if they say something like, "Wow! Those are the f***ing sexiest shoes!". Otherwise yes, I would think he was imaging himself in them. hahahaha!

Rubes, I have gone out looking for a 1-nighter. Many years ago and much in the vain that jibjab is aiming for now. I despaired of failed relationships so decided that I would use and abuse men for a while until I knew exactly what I wanted out of life. I was a bit of a slapper for a couple of years, but GOD IT WAS BLUDDY GREAT FUN!!! :oD

[maximo]

I don't think many people go out looking for a one night stand ! It just happens, and it's great if you know what to expect. It's perfectly fine to just want a bit of fun, no strings attached, as long as both parties are aware that it is the case. It's all very well waiting for "the one", but in the meantime it can get seriously boring !

Good luck Jibjab, don't worry too much about it, it'll happen when you least expect it ! Be yourself, buy her a drink, make her laugh...it's easy, really.

[B00]

Everyone noticed he's ignored my request for his MySpace URL?

Stalking is so difficult when the recipient is so uncooperative!

[B00]

Oh

He did

sorry!

Let the stalking begin!

<big grin...........>

[maximo]

Can someone let me know, cause I can't access these sites at work....;-)