Peoples Boundaries / Limits in Relationships

[salisbury]

Hi, just a quick update from yesterday.....although she keeps saying she misses me etc and that we will have to meet up to talk things through face to face (she has hinted a few times that she wants me back)...........she told me she would ring me after work last night but didnt (she was probably busy with her new bf)...........and i woke up this morning to not so much as a text message.

Am i being played or am i being played ?

She keeps saying she misses me but wont drop everything for me just incase im not being genuine.

Its pretty obvious i am though, the amount i have been ringin and texting, whereas i barely hear a peep out of her

[Champagne]

It seems nobody knows what she�s playing at. Even her! Hmmm� for your own sanity at least, salisbury, I would sit back and stop contacting her. Forget about her and get out and about with friends. If she really misses you then let her do the chasing for a bit. If she doesn't bother making time to see you then that will pretty much say it all.

[WendyS]

They say you don't value what you don't have to fight for. So to find out if she is really interested or just playing games, back off completely, maintain a dignified silence and let her do the running. I suspect she just enjoys manipulating you like a puppet, in which case you are inevitably going to be hurt if you hand her control of the strings. I'd be inclined to walk away and wait for a new relationship to come along where somebody values a relationship too much to want to play games with it.

[purpose]

If you have been ringing and texting then she knows damn well how you feel.... and yet she still doesn't contact you...?

How very CARING of her.

Not.

I think the penny has dropped now, surely...?

Hmmm... i shall get cross if you continue to chase her. She clearly doesn't deserve you and when you realise that, you will kick yourself!

[salisbury]

no,what i meant was i was ringing her last night and this morning with no reply...before that though we have been exchanging texts, although it does seem to be me going after her more than the other way around.

Shes in a new relationship and i dont think her bf would b happy if he found out she had been ringing me and texing etc......but she has said there could be a chance for us.....

i have given up now anyway, if she wants me she knows where i am, although I dont think I want her now anyhow