Absuive foster brother Part 2

[Cathyhuns]

My husband and I were executors and did all the work to sell the house and sort out the money. His share was transferred to his bank account and then we didn't hear from him again for over a year.

In fact until the money ran out. He now expects my husband and I to take over where my husband's parents left off and to provide him with money whenever he asks. We have had all manner of threats, including being threatened with the police (he thinks we cheated him out of his fair share of the money), being told that we are not doing what my husband's mother would want, he will commit suicide - you name it, he's tried it.

To begin with we were pleasant but kept saying no. More recently, we refuse to answer the phone and ignore his calls. Do you think we are doing the right thing and any suggestions on better ways to handle this?

[Drusilla1S]

You do not seem close to this relative, so I would seek an injunction against him if he threatens you again. I'm sure you do not wish to proceed down a legal road, but it often has the desired effect in putting someone in their place, but it also allows the police and courts to see you have attempted to resolve a situation legally and pleasantly, should things get out of hand. I sincerely hope they don't and wish you well.

[mccfluff]

sounds like he's trying to bully like he did your husbands parents. You need to talk to him though and make it clear that you won't put up with his behaviour and if its persists you'll get an injunction. It would probably be an idea to put this in writing and keep a log of phone calls etc

[zara 4]

Sorry but this man needs help,help he never got,you do not owe this man nothing,maybe ss would care to stick their noses in now and sort out the mess they helped to create when he was a young boy,his problems are something that you and your husband CANNOT deal with,somehow someone needs to take this guy into some type of care and soon!Good luck to you and your husband,there is nothing you two can do for him personally,i dont believe!!

[Pippa68]

I agree ~ get someone legal on to the case & call his bluff.

It seems he has been allowed to get what he wants far too often in his life ~ i'ts about time it stopped.

Well said Drusilla.

[Octavius]

I really don't think there is much to add, I think you and your husband have handled this perfectly. I presume the execution of the estate was carried out through the legal processes required and everything was documented? Incidentally, what happened to the �10kdebt - was this adjusted from his share or was the estate just split 50/50?

I think if you stand your ground he may eventually back down and give in - you cannot be responsible for his actions after that, if not, you may need to seek legal or Citizen Advice Bureau advice on an injunction.

[Cathyhuns]

Many thanks for your replies.

Yes Octavius, the estate was all handled properly. It was in fact the solicitor who told us to add the debt to the estate or we would just have been upset by it but thought we could do nothing about it.

We recognise he needs help. Unfortunatley he doesn't seem to and I also think he has been abusive to the authorities.

We have tried to think what would husband's mother wanted us to do, which is why we started off being pleasant to him, but after some of the abuse we've had its becoming very difficult.

We will investigate the injunction, although I'm fairly sure he's the sort who will take no notice of it anyway.

Again, thanks for the advice

[raysparx]

Hi Cathy, tell him to get stuffed,go screw himself,bog off,do one ,shove it up your chuffer, but don't give this sponging git one penny, tell him to get off his fat chuff and get a job cos he ain't gonna get a brass farthing,

failing that, smack him in the earhole!!!!

[joko]

it is likely that it is these tactics that he used to get the money from your parents

i would tell him you have found a diary catalogueing his behaviour over the years - and you intend to use it as evidence in a case you are bringing against him

if he has done anything he will know what is likely to be in this diary.

tell him you are so disgusted with his treatment of your parents that you intend to take the story to the newspapers

i know its lying but you need to play him t his own game

[electricblue]

Good old ray,charming and straight to the point!!!!

LOL

[monkeemayhem]

lmao @ ray!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!