My Ex Bf - Advice Please!!

[Lezzelb]

Looking for advice here!! I split up from my bf last year after nearly 3 years. I was devastated. I met a guy 3 weeks later - completely rebound but amazingly we are still together (not too happily at the mo!) despite a lot of things. However, my ex and I are still in touch by text a lot - have met up a couple of times purely in friendship and spoken on the phone. Sometimes we can text from early morning to late at night. I still love him and miss him dearly but he says that he doesnt love me anymore. Thinks we should stop this and try to move on - but on another foot says he does miss me and thinks about me. Says we have a connection!! He isnt involved with anyone i definately know but im totally confused. Should I just leave it alone which i know deep down is probably the best idea but on the other hand - love hearing from him! HELP!!

[caz21]

Dont mean to sound harsh but i was in your boyfriends position the other day, and i found an email from my now ex to his ex saying he misses her wants to be with her etc. he got dumped straight away and i am devastated he treat me like that, if you love your current boyfriend please dont mess him around like this, decide who you want to work on a relationship and leave the other to get on with their lives because its unfair and hurtful!

[spaced]

move on. How can he say he doesnt love, you yet then say he misses you and thinks about you. Looks like hes trying to keep you within distance, but not too close. Move on mate.

[Imp y Celyn]

Perhaps you should offer him a 'friends with benefits' option. Then you can have it all. A man who loves you (your boyfriend) and a man who you love (the ex). It's always a shame when they are not the same person, but you'll get over it.

[michelle10]

It is obvious that you boyfriend doent want you to move on. You say you have a new boyfriend at the moment and you ex i would say is jelous. he gives you hope and keeps you hanging on. You split up for a reason that reason isnt going to change. He says he doesnt love you any more you need to put your attention in to your new boyfriend, and leave your ex by himself. He knows he just has to click his fingers and you go running, Stop it and put your energy in to your new boyfriend. you may just find happiness if you do. xx

[Imp y Celyn]

codswallop, this girl is craving attention and she isnt getting it from her bf so she might as well get it where she can. nothing better than a bit on the side, thats what i say

[kazza12345]

you know what they say - two's company, three's a threesome

[Imp y Celyn]

and more's an orgy!

[China Doll]

It's really hard when you first split from someone, you think back to a time when you were upset and that person would always be the one you went to for support. Now when you're sad you're just doing what you did before but it's really not the best idea. You need time to adjust and get your head together and from the sounds of things so does he. Am afraid you have to be strong and bite the bullet and leave him alone.

When I split up with my ex, one of the things that kept me afloat was thinking that at the same time the following year it won't hurt as much. It sounds crap but time really does help. Good luck.

[Lezzelb]

Thanks for all the advice given so far!! Interesting to hear everyones different views on it!! The problem is i still love him - no matter what happens - he was my soulmate and i cant seem to get past that! Ah well ..... will just have to keep trying!!! Thanks all again!

[Imp y Celyn]

i think you shoud put your current boyfriend out of his misery then if thats how you feel. he deserves better.

[China Doll]

Have to say that I agree with Imp y Celyn, it's not fair on the bloke.