Why are some people more insecure than others?

[PinkFizz]

How can some of us be the insanely insecure type,and yet others can be totally confident and trusting? Is it always a case of something that has happened in our past to make us that way,or are we just born like it?

[redcrx]

Hi Pink.

I think we are born either shy and insecure or confident. But life can change that.
A shy, insecure person can find confidence with the right encouragement or partner in a loving relationship just as a confident person can have their trust destroyed in someone to the point where they find it hard to live life as they once did.

[Imp y Celyn]

insecurity is a recognition of your own limitations and imperfections. insecure people usually have something to be insecure about. like being ugly or fat

[fee-is-me]

Oh good question PinkFizz! And good answer redcrx!

I agree entirely!

I was terribly insecure when i was younger - can't put it down to anything in particular, but since meeting a certain someone, i have changed beyond recognition.

When someone gives you confidence - or helps you to see that you CAN be a confident person - things can change dramatically.

[PinkFizz]

I dont agree Imp - I dont know who you are,but you have left at least 3 stupid answers to 3 separate posts today so if you dont have anything constructive to say,dont bother.

[4getmenot]

yer who is this IMP coz he/she's becoming as bad as some others with his/her stupid unfunny comments. We all like a laugh on here but you are seriously not funny and may have some insecurities yourself.

[Imp y Celyn]

one persons stupid is anothers inspiration

[4getmenot]

And as for your question pink there are lots of issues that make people insecure. The way we grow up maybe in a society that thinks the world has to be perfect doesn�t help either.

[PinkFizz]

I was going to say that ive got myself into a right state over something that hasnt even happened yet,but with daft comments looming im not sure whether to bother

[redcrx]

perhaps imp is fat or ugly?

[PinkFizz]

well all I want to say is that if you dont want to helpfully join this chat could you please not leave any more posts?

[4getmenot]

Come on share your problems, dont let one person stop you saying something you want to say

[redcrx]

Pink,
I think the way some are posting today it could be wise to keep whats bothering you to yourself for a day or so, but then why let them ruin the site? Talk and we shall try and help and not answer this attention seeker.

[fee-is-me]

Ignore it PinkFizz... if you have things you want to discuss/ 'question', i'm sure those of us who wish to participate properly will outweigh those comments from the undesirables :0)

[PinkFizz]

well b/f has been at his job for 6 months - he is contracted there and so doesnt work for them directly.He comes home every day saying that they never talk to him,(probably coz his contract pays twice what they earn) but it doesnt bother him and he just gets on with his job and comes home.Every eve I say - same old day being ignored - and he laughs and says they are a bunch of miserable sods.Till today

[PinkFizz]

He txt me half hour ago to say that the management had invited him out for the eve for a few drinks and he was going to go.I replied and said that was fine - and would do him good but was surprised as they didnt even talk to him at work,or even offer him a coffee.He replied saying he was just as surprised and was now going to book a hotel for that night!

[fee-is-me]

Ah.

[PinkFizz]

am now my brain is in overdrive

[redcrx]

surely he wouldnt be so silly to use that as a cover up for something else?

[Imp y Celyn]

hey i wasnt trying to be funny, my theory is that insecure will usually have an issue that they blame for their insecurity. just because you disgaree with my answer to your question don't mean you can be spiteful. and yes i may be fat and ugly and i may be talking from personal experience. you lot are too quick to judge.

[PinkFizz]

No im not fat or ugly,but something is making me totally overeact.And to be honest I am a very insecure person but I dont know why.